Post # 1
So my FI really wants the first time he sees me to be at the end of the aisle but we are getting married at 6:00 at a plantation…the grounds are gorgeous!! And I want to do a first look before and then get to go take pictures around the house and whatnot…I guess I’m wondering if anyone has done a first look and what you did? was it still special?? I don’t want to rob ourselves of that moment, but I also want some pretty pics from our wedding! HELP!
Post # 3
We did a first look – and it was unreal. We too had a late wedding, so we did the first look 3 hours before the ceremony. It was JUST me, my groom, and the two photographers hiding in the bushes. It was still extremely special, and since there werent hundreds of eyes watching, it was easier. Seeing him at the end of the aisle was still VERY special. I didnt wear my veil for the first look or pre ceremony photos, and wore the veil just for the ceremony – that made everything more “bridal” and DH said that it was incredible. It also made us very relaxed for the rest of the wedding day. Id strongly recommend it to anyone considering it – we got some incredible photos out of it. I posted another string with some photos, go to my profile and click the link for “Some of My Pro Pics…PHOTOS!!” and you’ll see them.
Post # 4
Well I’m not married yet, but my FI and I have gone back and forth on this issue a few times. I think we’re not going to do a first look, we’ll wait til I go down the asile. I think a 6:00 wedding in april (if your profile is correct) will still have plenty of day light left to take pictures afterwards if that’s what you’re worried about. If you’re really set on doing a first look, maybe you could find some really cute pictures of other people sneeking up on their FIs, and show it to him, so he can have a better idea of what it would be like…
Post # 5
I kind of don’t want to do a first look for the same reason…. so I’m thinking of asking our photog if we can do a photoshoot the next day. The hair/makeup might not be as perfect but who cares 🙂
Post # 6
We did a first look. Honestly, it was nice having the time together in more privacy (even though the photographers were there). Plus we didn’t have to rush to get pictures done afterward, even though we still ended up missing all the cocktail hour with group portraits and things like that,
Post # 7
I would really like to do this but my Fi complete disagrees. Our ceremony is at 5 p.m. and we only have our photographer until 6:30. He is very traditional and wants to see me at the end fo the aisle for the first time.
Post # 8
MIne is very traditional really doesn’t want to see me before either; so we moved our ceremony to 2 pm and then reception starts at 4:30 pm so there’s lots of time to do photos afterwards in daylight. Our location is outdoors so we really want to take advantage of the beautiful scenery.
Post # 9
We’re doing a first look! And we’re doing it way before the ceremony so that I have time to get my makeup fixed, cause I KNOW I’m going to be a blubbering mess the first time I see him that day. Really that’s the main reason why we’re doing one- so I don’t totally lose it in front of 200 people!
Post # 10
we are doing a first look for a few reasons. the main one is for religious purposes, we’re jewish and we have to sign the ketubah before the ceremony, so unless we want to do that seperately, we’ll be seeing each other anyway. plus i hate crowds and having all eyes on me, so i’d much rather have a private moment for our first moment together that day. and of course, it’ll be nice to get a lot of the pictures over with before the ceremony.
Post # 11
You should check out this thread and this thread. A lot of people have done it including me and not one has regretted it. Photos are the only thing that you have to look back on and I personally would want my whole wedding organized for that purpose. It really comes down to what you think it’s more valualbe, that first look down the aisle or countless photos to pick from and look at (plus, give yourselves and the photographer a stress-free, less time-constraint photo session, some secluded time for you and your FI just before the ruckus begins, and less wait time for your guests). I believe it’s a cure-all.
Post # 12
We’re doing a first look, I’m so excited! I’m the more traditional one but its something I want that way all the pics can be done before the ceremony!
Post # 13
@asunw – thats what we did – all the pis were done before! We had about 25 minutes to spare after the ceremony before the cocktail hour started, so we spent them getting a few more pics and got to our cocktail hour right after te guests – it was incredible!
Post # 14
We did it and it was FANTASTIC!! It didn’t take away from the moment walking down the aisle toward him at all. I’m a photographer myself, and I knew I wanted tons of pictures of us together on our wedding day, and the only way to do it really is to take pictures before the ceremony before the guests get there. We shot for three hours before the wedding and we have SO many great shots of just us that we love and will always treasure.
If you can schedule a few hours before the ceremony to have your first look you can do that AND your bridal party pictures (and even family pictures if they’re down for getting there early) and be able to enjoy all of cocktail hour with your guests.
I’m going to try to attach my favorite picture from our first look. I’m so crazy happy I look silly, but it definitely captures how excited I was to marry my hubby 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I was really pro-first look (eliminating time between ceremony and reception was my primary reason) until I read a blog post that I can’t find right now that essentially said you’re robbing your guests of that moment.
I realized she had a bit of a point. The other point is this: your wedding isn’t a photoshoot. So ultimately, make a decision that makes you both happy. If your fiance is really opposed to it and wants that moment on the aisle, let him have it. It’s worth way more than the portraits.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I know what I said was kind of heresy here where photography is the be all end all (and I pretty much agree) but the wedding is about more than blog-worthy pictures.
If you really want the pictures and to respect your fiance’s wishes at the same time, schedule a day after shoot and do some bridal portraits before the wedding.