Post # 1
What was everyone’s deciding factor on this?
I was dead set against this at first because of tradition, but now I’m rethinking this as many people are saying it was one of the best parts of the day!
Post # 3
My fiance is luke warm on it but I’m gung-ho. We’re definitely doing it. It makes sense for our limited timeline, plus I think the pictures are going to be awesome!
Post # 4
our big thing is the time issue. I dont want my guests to wait long between the ceremony and dinner. So we can do the first look, bridal party and some family shots before the wedding.. then we have a half hour to 45 minutes between the ceremony and dinner to get in some more picture.
I have to add too though, the man just keeps me calm. I’m going to need it that day. I can’t even get through a sappy love song on the radio without crying from thinking about our wedding and how great it will be. lol
Post # 5
Our mothers dont want us to do it so we have decided that this is one of those battles we are going to let them have….
Post # 6
FI is dead set against one, so that decided it. We’re going to have to have a Catholic gap between the ceremony and reception anyway, though, so we might as well use that time for our pictures.
Post # 7
Were DOING IT! =) So excited! We only get our venue for 4 hours total, maybe an extra half hour if we are lucky. Cant wait! Plus already living together and deciding to not sleep together (physically, not just sexually) the night before, I am going to NEED to see hiim before walking down that aisle!
Best of luck with your decision! It took some time for mom to understand, accept and now she loves the idea!
Post # 8
We did one. BEST decision ever! I wanted to from the beginning, but my husband wasn’t so sure about it. I showed him some pictures of other people’s first looks and explained that it would be just us and the photographer, that’s it. He warmed very quickly to the idea and will tell anybody that it was the best thing we did. He said the minute he saw me, it relaxed him for the rest of the day. We also used this time to exchange gifts, which the photographer captured with his camera and produced some great pictures. We didn’t do any setup photos during this time, it was just the two of us together. After that, we went downstairs, took photos with our bridal party and then we were off. All of our pictures were able to be taken at this time then too.
Post # 9
For me the biggest is so I’ll be less nervous!
Second, we don’t have much time and being a fall wedding there won’t be much light after our wedding is over in the evening to take pictures. We need the pictures in the daylight.
Post # 10
We’re taking the pictures before the whole shi-bang, so yeah, we’re doing one. I’m looking forward to it because like @misskarianne I’ll probably be a big mess and will need a few minutes with just FI.
Post # 11
we opted for tradition and didn’t do a first look but like greeneyedmoon we had the catholic gap so we had extra time for pictures.
i did have my photographer do some ‘behind the door’ picture prior to the ceremony so even though i couldnt see him i got to hold his hand, tell him i love him and to break a leg out there. plus it made for a very cute photo!
Post # 12
i am just totally curious – what is the “catholic gap”?
as for first look, we decided on it because of timing. our ceremony was at 4pm, dinner at 5pm, party on beach at 7pm. All pictures had to be done before.
It really made for some good pictures and seeing DH before the ceremony took away some stress and i was able to relax and enjoy the whole day! i also liked that our day together started at 1:30pm instead of 4pm.
Post # 13
we are going to do it because we have ceremony and reception in the same location and don’t want to have guests waiting around doing nothing while we are off doing photos
Post # 14
@dynamic_duo: because of confessions and masses on saturday night the catholic church only allows weddings at certain times – for instance at our chruch we were allowed 1:00 or 3:00 in the church and 12:00 and 2:00 in the chapel. therefore there is usually a “gap” between the wedding and reception – our wedding started at 3:00, it was a full mass so it was over at 4:00 and the cocktail hour started at 5:00 so for us it wasnt so bad only an hour gap but for those who have ealier weddings say 1:00 its over at 2:00 and then you have a few hours before the reception starts in the eveing. – the catholic gap