I hate the concept of a “first look” just for a photo op. I want the first time my fiance sees me to be when the doors to the aisle open.
My problem is I have people swearing up and down I would regret not having a first look picture.
We’re doing a first look, because our church has us walk down the aisle together.
If that weren’t the case, I’d probably want one– even if there weren’t any pictures taken. I’m a crier. I don’t want to spend the whole ceremony with tears of joy running down my face. I figure I can get it all out of the way before the ceremony (or at least try!) I really don’t want my makeup running down my face.
I’m all for do what you think is right for YOU.
Don’t let some know-it-all pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do on your own day.
For us, it made sense for us to do all our pictures before the ceremony. I didn’t want to be quartered off apart from my guests for a few hours post-ceremony. I wanted to mingle with them and enjoy cocktail hour and the reception! But I would NEVER tell someone to do that, but if asked, I always tell people how much I loved it and I think my guests enjoyed it too.
@jb20: just have the photog at an angle to get a first look during the ceremony. that seems more meaningful to me
Were doing First Look but only because We will be pressed for tine after the ceremony and want to not have to be worried about keeping the guests waiting while we get photos. I want tons of photos!! Its your decision not anyone else’s.
@jb20: If you don’t want to completely do the “first look” photographs but still want a similar photo, do a “first touch” photo where you touching hands behind doors or something like that. It will be a sweet memory right before the ceremony. Here is an example:
I’m doing a first look and here are my reasons.
1. I don’t particularly like the tradition of the groom not seeing the bride until he’s married to her. It dates back to when women were property, and it just doesn’t sit right to me.
2. I think the moment when the grooms sees the bride is intimate and special. I’d rather have that private moment ahead of time than in front of our friends and family. (If I cry, I want it to happen before the ceremony).
3. I want my pictures done as close to getting my hair and makeup done as possible. I fidget and touch my hair and face a lot, so I’m definitely going to mess something up.
4. I want to enjoy my cocktail hour. I was it to be leissurely and with people rather than trying to cram as many pictures as I can into it before hand.
5. It gives us the option of doing a receiving line.
6. This one is probably the most important to me: Allowing the bride and groom to see each other before hand has shown to reduce stress, relax both parties, and make the wedding less anxious. My groom has anxiety issues so anything I can d to reduce his anxiety regarding that day (and making it just enjoyable for him), I will do. (To give you an idea: he’s having issues with the idea of just standing up there in front of everyone. He’s so anxious about everyone looking at him)
This is just to give you an idea as to why people are big proponents. Obviously this is your day and you should do what feels right and what you’ve always wanted to do.
As a nontraditional bride with an anxious groom, the first look was the best way to make both of us happy. It might not make you happy. Don’t let anyone saying “should” or “shouldn’t” sway you.
Thank you for all of the opinions! I think I will just tell everyone it’s not going to happen. I think half the magic is him seeing me walk down the aisle. I do love the “first touch” thing, but I don’t think that will happen either.
It’s all personal preference !!! Do what’s right for you even though I LOVE my first look pics
I personally have waited since I was a little girl to walk down the aisle and have my man see me for the first time and see the look on his face. Of course there are perks to the first look such as saving picture time and what-not but there’s nothing in this world that would make me want to break the tradition of my first look being when I walk down the aisle.
@BeachBride2014: We did a first look for all these reasons
My husband did not want to see me until I walked down that aisle, and I am just a tad superstitious.
@jb20: I hate the concept too, but because of the … quirkiness of the way my venue schedules things, if I want pics at all, it’s going to have to be first look.
I think as long as you have enough time to do pics after the ceremony, and get all your non B&G pics (mom and bride, bridal party, mom and MOH, etc) done before the ceremony, you will be fine. Especially if you’re Catholic, people will be expecting an hour or so gap (cocktail hour) between ceremony and reception.
@jb20: I am a big fan of doing whatever you want!
We are not traditional people and we are also not “first look” people. We are simply taking all of our pictures before the ceremony and then enjoying our cocktail hour with our families. We discussed doing a “first look” picture but then decided that it simply wasn’t us at all. His mother is slightly bothered with the thought of us seeing each other before the ceremony, but she kind of understands why we are doing it.
I think for us, the initiation is going to be, “Hey, are you ready to take pictures yet?” – Most people don’t get us, but that’s just the way we are.
If it feels right to you to not to do a first look, then by all means, don’t do it.
Yeeeaaaahhhh….it is more convenient for you guys and the photographer but that just means that you need to make sure that you provide an adequate amount of time for portraits after the ceremony.
Plus, and I know this might sound sadistic, but nothing makes a better photo than a groom crying at the altar and nothing makes a groom cry at the altar like seeing is beautiful bride for the first time. LoL.