(Closed) First Look?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am not doing a first look. My sister did one, and she said she honestly wishes she would have waited because she would have rather seen his “oh, wow!” reaction when she was coming down the aisle. For me, there’s just something romantic and irreplaceable in doing it that way.

However, I totally get why you would want to do a first look and think it’s truly one of those “to each her own” things!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Good question 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you don’t want to do it, then don’t.  Personally, I did one and I loved the chance to see my husband before the wedding (it was the only ‘alone’ time we had) and the pictures that we got from it.  The walk down the aisle was still incredibly special.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We haven’t had our wedding yet, but I wanted to do a first look, but I have talked to my FI more about it, and he doesn’t want to do it, so we won’t be doing it. I don’t think we will regret not doing a first look. I am kind of looking forward to him seeing me for the first time when everyone else does.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We are doing photos before the wedding so he will see me in my dress before the whole ceremony. I really wanted to see his face when i walked down the aisl but, i don’t think it’s ahuge deal it’s still the wedding day when he will first see me in my dress.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I know you’re asking for comments from “non-first-look” brides, but I DID do a first look and I highly recommend it for a couple of reasons. Aside from the practical advantage of getting pictures done early (so you don’t lose out on the cocktail hour!), here are a couple of other benefits I didn’t think about but turned out to be true:

– First and foremost, it calmed me down!! My nerves were escalating all morning and I started to think I was going to get woozy right before the processional. The first look broke my stress, and from then on, I was perfectly calm and relaxed. I was able to enjoy every minute after that.

– The odds of getting a great picture of your FI’s reaction are increased. The photographer is solely focused on you and him, and you can arrange to meet in an ideal setting for the photos.

– It’s private. It guarantees you will get to enjoy a moment alone before you are surrounded by family and friends, wanting to give each of them some attention.

That’s my pitch, but everyone has to do what’s right for them – good luck!

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re not doing a first look, for many reasons. FI doesn’t want one, is totally against it. I also felt like it would take something away, I dont want ANYONE except my BMs and my mom and dad to see me. I get the whole “alone time” thing, but really, I just feel like its a weird time to do it, and will make the ceremony less special. I just don’t see the appeal.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I REALLY want to do a first look and my fiance said it’s up to me… I dont know!!! lol

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Until like two days before the wedding we were planning on NO first look. However, the more we tried to figure out logisitcs [we were getting ready and married at his parents country home] we realized it was absolutely unrealistic to try and not see each other all day long. It made the day not quite as stressful [we didn’t have to avoid each other] and the moment I started walking down the aisle was just as magical.

Also, it was nice to have our first look just the two of us [photographer and vidographer creepin’ in the pine trees].

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My parents did their photos before the wedding (sort of like the first look) and they’re nervous and kind of icky looking in them. They should have waiting! The few from their party are so much better!

 

If you don’t want to do it, you really shouldn’t.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My FI and I will be doing our “first look” on the roof of our apartment (which overlooks SF and our church, GG bridge, the bay, etc) where we got engaged. 🙂 It will be just the two of us and the photographer, and I’ll “walk” to him so he can see me approach.

Another idea that my sister did is she had her fiance stand at the front of the church before the ceremony and pictures, then she walked down the aisle to him… Only it was only the two of them.

I’ve heard from a lot of people that the “first look” REALLY calms them down. But, it’s really up to you!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was completely set on no first look initially.

But the more I’ve thought about it, the more I realize how self-conscious I’m likely to be going down the aisle with both of my parent.

For the first look I’ll get to focus on him (and me with him).  I’m worried that if we don’t do it, I’ll miss that chance to really look at him too.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m not doing one…mostly because we’re totally awkward at the public snuggling (I know it’s just the photog but I’d be totally unable to relax & forget she was there) and besides, we have a giant gap b/t wedding and reception in which to take pictures.

We’ve talked about it with our photog and we all agreed that *for us* it would be somewhat of a forced moment. If you both feel weird about it, don’t feel like you have to. The wedding/reception will be full of moments! 

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I will not be doing a first look. I totally see the advantages of taking pics before,but it’s just not for us. My photographer posts these first look pics on her site all the time(I feel like I’m the only one not doing one!) Seems like the couples in these pics look very happy..But the bottom line for me is when i was a little girl I never dreamed of creeping around a tree or tappy my groom on the shoulder.. I’ve always dreamed of seeing him down the aisle for the first time,and thats why we are going to do it that way.

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