First Look Before Ceremony? Do you regret it?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: First Look ?
    First Look Before Ceremony : (71 votes)
    72 %
    First Look Walking Down the Isle : (28 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    8387 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @amandasouthcarolina:  I did a first look and I’m so glad we did.  I got to share a private moment with my groom just before the ceremony and it was very intimate.  I personally loved having that since the rest of my day was so focused on us.

    EDIT: My groom saw my dress well before our wedding day, so I’m not sure if that’s a factor for you.

    Post # 4
    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @amandasouthcarolina:  I did and don’t regret it at all, it was one of my fave moments of the day. To see his face when he turned around was amazing, and to share that moment just the two of us was perfect.

    Post # 5
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @amandasouthcarolina:  I LOVED our first look. We did a small dw with only 4 guests but I still had people around me most of the afternoon while I was getting ready & DH was hanging w his brother. It was really nice to have a moment to shooo everyone away & focus on him for a few minutes before the ceremony, alone. It was nice ot be able to share our nervousness & excitement w/out feeling like everyone was watching us.  He saw drawings of my dress but since it was custom he didn’t see the real thing until the first look. 

    Post # 6
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @amandasouthcarolina:  I would regret not doing it. We have a first look planned for our elopement and here is why:

    • I want a private, intimate moment with my man where he sees me first, not everyone else
    • I want to ensure the moment is captured in pictures
    • I want to do photos before the wedding ceremony, which means before any crying, sweating, etc. that would mess up my hair/make-up

    Post # 7
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I did one and don’t regret it at all. It was my favorite part of the day.

    Post # 8
    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    From what I’ve read about this, no one who HAS done one seems to regret it…and people who don’t do it don’t seem to regret that either! I think it will be a really special moment when he first sees you, no matter where it happens 🙂

    Personally I love the convenience logistically of the first look, but in terms of sentimentality it doesn’t feel right to me because I have always dreamed of the look on his face when he sees me for the first time walking down the aisle. It’s just an important moment to me.

    My compromise is to do as many pictures before had as possible– the bridal shots, me with my girls, him with his guys, me with my mom and hopefully grandma, etc…

    Then we will do our couples shots after the ceremony, and a few everyone-together pics!

    Post # 9
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @amandasouthcarolina:  Did it and I am sooooo glad we did.

    Honestly those moments with my DH before the ceremony were some of the funniest and most emotional moments of the day…and thank goodness they were caught by our videographer.

    Post # 10
    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Poll, please!

    Post # 11
    1838 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    i did it and nope, i don’t regret it.  i do wish it had been a little more private than it was, but that was hard b/c it was raining

    Post # 13
    147 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @amandasouthcarolina:  Interesting that we seem to be in the minority! We did not do a 1st look, and I’m glad we DIDNT! It was really special when he saw me walking down and we locked eyes… it was just us! And I’m glad we got that moment! It was really a “Clouds open, beam from the heavens” moment, and I will always remember that.

    However, I wanted to do a 1st look, but he was REALLY against it, so I just said “fine”.

    I think follow your intuition… it you want to do it, you should! Better to be in the safe side than not, but I think you are safe either way.

    P.S. How much time are you leaving for photos in between the ceremony and start of the reception? That may also affect your decision…

    Post # 14
    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  Not to sound snarky but you are eloping and need a private moment? Aren’t elopements typically just the B&G?

    We are doing a first look!



    Post # 16
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @LilRhodyGem:  I’m not sure how that is relevant but yes, I still want a private moment. My parents are acting as witnesses and will be present during the ceremony. The first look is the two of us and it’s not standing under a gazebo or whatever else it will be at the ceremony. Also, the other points I made still stand – pictures of our expressions and perfect hair and make-up.  

    ETA: even elopements include officiants and witnesses, so that is not private.

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