Post # 1
If the weather is cooporates, I am going to get ready at my parents house (upstairs) and my fiance will probably start getting ready at the hotel and then come to the house for the final touches (staying downstairs so we are seperate). I have a vision of doing our first look just with our immediate families looking on.. I would come down the front stairs with my mom & sisters and he would be waiting at the bottom with his parents, brother, & my dad.
Has anyone done a first look with family looking on? Everyone I talk to says how it should be a private moment between the bride & groom, but we are both very close with our families & I just love the idea of having them there. Also, I think the traditional first look pics (where the groom is just standing there facing away from the bride and she comes up and taps him on the shoulder) would just be a little unnatural. Afterwards we could go outside for pictures to have 15-20 minutes by ourselves to have some time to ourselves.
Post # 3
@hopscotch: Will your families have seen you before this first look, or will it be a first look for everybody? Just curious.
I still wouldn’t do it, personally, but if it’s what you and your Fi want to do, go for it!
Post # 4
Our families were all pretty much hidden around us in bushes and stuff lol..
This is all about you, if you want them there, then have them there! No one can tell you that you’ll be missing out on anything, if you don’t think you will be. Adding in the extra few minutes to be alone after is a great idea. Best of both worlds in this case. I say go for it if it is your vision.
Post # 5
My friend did this – she met her husband in the yard – there’s a really funny picture of her whole family looking out at them form the big front window.
She didn’t care at all about everyone being there – they still had their intimate moment as their families were inside.
Post # 6
We might. Either way it will definitely be in front of the bridal party.
Post # 7
I did my first look in front of the bridal party, and I wish we hadn’t. It was just a little too casual and everyone was just farting around talking and stuff. I wished we had walked off a bit and done it by ourselves.
On the other hand, my best friend did hers in a room where we could watch through glass doors and we did, but they seemed to feel alone and had a nice intimate moment together. Probably because we were separated from them.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for the comments! @sunkissed19 – love the idea of maybe having them looking out from the window! I still have a lot of time to decide, so I’ll keep you posted!
To answer one question, yes – the idea would be that my mother & sisters (and fiance’s sister & mother) will have already seen me. I also want to do a special “first look” with my dad right before I see my fiance. So basically, it would just be the first time that my fiance is seeing me (along with his dad & brother).
Post # 9
One more thing – if we do decide to do a regular first look (just bride & groom), does anyone have any suggestions for what to do other than the “traditional” first look, where the groom is standing with his back towards the bride and she walks up to tap him on the shoulder? Something about that just feels awkward to me.
Post # 10
@hopscotch: I’ve seen a shot in which the groom was standing on one side of a door, and the bride on the other side, and she reached her hand around the door so they were holding hands but not seeing each other yet. It might be hard to arrange but I thought it was a neat idea.
We’re also planning a first look and I don’t like the tap on the shoulder thing either.
Post # 11
My photographer invited the bridal party and parents to watch. They weren’t in the way, although it did make me a little self concious by our millionth kissing shot. I don’t see why its a problem to have them there.