Post # 1
I really like the idea of keeping tradition and not doing a first look. FH and I have always pictured our first look being when I’m walking down the aisle. But the problem is, to cut costs, we’re having the ceremony after dinnertime and having hors d’oeuvres and desserts at the reception. So the ceremony would be at 7:30, and the sun would be setting afterwards, so FH and I wouldn’t be able to get any nice pictures outside. I’m really leaning toward a first look, just so we have the maximum time to take as many pictures as we want without worrying about sunlight or making the guests wait too long at the reception, it’s just hard to let go of the image of FH seeing me for the first time at the ceremony. What do y’all think?
Post # 3
I’m all for first looks!!!
Post # 4
I’m actually in a similar situation! We’re having our ceremony at 7pm and we definitely don’t want our guests sitting around and waiting for us to get our pictures done afterwards, especially because that would cut into reception fun!
Honestly, I truly don’t believe it will take anything from the ceremony. When he sees you in your dress during the first look, it will be a special and intimate moment. And you know what? He will still be breathless when you walk down the aisle because that’s when reality sets in. That is the moment that he will realize he is about to become your husband.
Nothing can take away from that moment.
Post # 6
I love first looks, and we’re doing it. Our ceremony is set to start at 6:30. In August it stays bright long after that time, but we’re also skipping cocktail hour and going straight into the reception. I don’t want our guests sitting around doing nothing while we’re doing photos. For timing first look just works for us, but I also love the photo opportunities too.
Post # 7
In general I am not a fan of first looks, and won’t be doing one. But in your case I think it makes sense to do it.
Post # 8
We’re doing one – we’re having an untraditional wedding AND it makes sense since our ceremony and reception are at the same location. Personally, I’m glad we’re doing one because then I won’t feel rushed after the ceremony and we’ll know we got great pics in.
Post # 9
How about a First Touch? We took lots of photos with our bridal party members before the ceremony, he with his groomsmen and me with my bridesmaids, and then we did a First Touch where we connected before the ceremony but didn’t see each other until I was walking down the aisle. (We wanted to preserve that aisle moment, too.) It was a very tender moment to capture, and my husband was moved to tears as you might see from this particular photo. Perhaps this will offer you another option. Whatever you choose, it will be wonderful. Congrats to you and your FI!
Post # 10
We are doing the a first look mostly because I want to enjoy the reception and not have to miss any of it because we are taking pictures.
I am also a very emotional person and I think the first look might help me not ugly cry all the way down the aisle lol
It is up to you I think it is a good idea to do one because that way you are not in a rush for pictures or missing the reception!
Post # 11
He does not want to see me before the ceremony, which I found really sweet, but I was worried about all those gorgeous, romantic photos we might miss. My photographer came up with the idea of doing a session with just the two of us AFTER the wedding. Like, a week after. My package includes a bridal session that I’m not into, so it will take the place of that. The more I thought about it, it seems like a neat idea. All the pressure will be off, the wedding will be over. No smudgy makeup from crying. We’ll have a day to ourselves to do as many photos as we like without spoiling anything for the ceremony.
Post # 12
There’s nothing wrong with a first look, and we are doing it. Initially we weren’t interested, but because of timing issues, similar to yours, we decided to do it. Now I’m really looking forward to our first look! I think it will be amazing to have that private moment to ourselves. It will be even better than just seeing each other for the first time while walking down the aisle. And, it won’t take away from that moment either! I vote do a first look.
Post # 13
Well, I don’t really want to do a first look, but FI wants to have our first moment together more intimate – so I don’t know!
I mean, for me, I want his first time seeing me to be as I walk down the aisle, but I’m starting to be afraid that the photographer won’t capture the moment (even though my photog is the best photog ever), but I’m pretty sure that is just my anxiety.
However, I think FI would be more comfortable doing a first look since it would be more intimate… but then…
… our family and friends would miss that first reaction (though they would see his face as I walk to him…
See… I just can’t make up my mind anymore. At first it was a heck no all the way… and now I’m like I DON’T KNOW!
Post # 14
We did it and it was one of the best decisions we made. It helped me get all my stress out and share an intimate moment with DH before the ceremony. Not to mention, I don’t think it diminished the walking down the aisle feelings at all– and I still got a pretty sweet pic of him when he first saw me walking into the ceremony!
ETA: Here’s my walking down the aisle photo of him… absolutely one of my favorite pictures of the day.
Post # 15
We’re doing one just because we don’t want to miss out on our cocktail hour and all the yummy canapes we’ve chosen! It is very rare in Aus, not many people have ever even heard of it so we’ve had a few negative opinions but for us it just makes sense. Idon’t think it will take away from the walking down the aisle moment – it might make it a little different thats all. I’m really looking forward to it!
Post # 16
First looks are awesome and I am totally doing one! I think it’ll diffuse the tension a little and make the day less anxiety-inducing. It’ll also give more time after the ceremony to have fun at cocktail hour instead of taking pictures.