First Look Pep Talk Please!!!

posted 5 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I am team first look! My husband was on the fence about it when we first started talking timeline but went along with me because he said he trusted that I knew planning a timeline better. Needless to say he was SO happy we did a first look when it was all said and done. He joked to me after the ceremony that had we not he would’ve fainted when I came down the aisle. FWIW I still cried on my walk down the aisle and my husband still got emotional. NOTHING dimmed my moment with the church organs and me walking with my dad down the aisle to the man I love with over 200 people watching. I am a bit shy when it comes to emotions/PDA etc so for me a first look sounded amazing because I wanted to express genuine emotion and be comfortable the first time I saw him instead of on a “stage”. It was everything I could’ve wanted. We both were so so happy and eerily calm about the whole thing after it. I would definitly recommend to anyone that a first look is worth it for multiple reasons. I understand the tradition behind waiting– i’m generally a very traditional type person. However don’t let the fear of dulling a special moment scare you away from one! 

Post # 18
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580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

kittytwo :  it sounds like I’m the exception, rather than the rule…. if that helps at all?!?!

Most other bees seem super happy 😊 

 

Post # 19
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1204 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We did a first look and my husband did NOT cry when he first saw me (but looked super happy).  He cried at the ceremony, though.  It was super windy, so my hair did get a little messed up but it was easily fixed.  My makeup stayed put, though.  My dress did get a little scuffed around the edges, but it was not noticeable at ALL.  None of our guests saw me.  We did pics up the road from the venue and then walked back, but got settled in the bridal suite about 45 minutes before the ceremony.  The bridal suite pics are some of my favorites from the day! 

Post # 20
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1452 posts
Bumble bee

Loved our first look, it gave us lots of time to get great pictures, my makeup was fresh, we didnt feel rushed, we (and our bridal party) were ablet to enjoy the cocktail hour with our guests and it took away a lot of the nerves for both myself and my husband.

 

Post # 21
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

kittytwo :  I have to ask… I know you said at 6 Pm but during what month are you getting married? I’m also getting married at 6 in July… so the sun should still be high in the sky till about 9 pm… We are not doing the first look mainly for my fiance who beleives he will be all “puffy eyed” for the ceremony as he is sure he will cry when he sees me. ( yes he is a very emotional guy with the worlds biggest heart)… But I agree with alot of the other bees… it’s ultimetely your decision… If you have a good photographer they will be able to take dusk till dawn photos no question… If your photographer doesn’t think she will be able to take quality photos then I would switch… Plus side of taking after dark photos… SPARKLERS!!! 

Post # 25
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I had your exact same thought process. I have waited my whole life for ‘that look’ of my soon-to-be-husband at the end of the aisle. My photographer said the same thing to me and I was like absolutely not.

After thinking about it and doing some research, I changed my mind. And I’m so glad we did!

So honestly, my first look wasn’t like what I expected it to be. Neither of us cried or had some dramatic reactions. We did all of our photos, fresh hair and makeup (and they look amazing!).

After our photos, we went our separate ways and freshened up. I was afraid that my big moment was ruined because our first look was eh. I was wrong about this too.

Nothing can compare to having all of your loved ones there, being with your dad, or whoever escorts you. I teared up as soon as I stepped out of the door. My husband cried too (and I’ve never seen him cry in 7 years of dating). I got that perfect moment I had dreamed of AND got our pictures out of the way.

I will say that I’m glad we did the pictures before, because after the ceremony I did not want to take an hours worth of photos. We were excited and ready to get to the reception. We did 15 mins of couple’s shots after the ceremony and went to our reception.

I will say, do some research and do whatever feels right to you. Everyone has their own expectations, and what they are wanting. Whatever you choose will be the right decision.

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