Post # 1
Our photographer has mentioned doing First Look photos, which if you aren’t familiar with them, it’s where the bride and groom spend some time before the ceremony visiting with each other and seeing each other for the first time. It makes for beautiful and intimate photos but I’m still stuck on the tradition of seeing each other for the first time during the ceremony…
What is your opinion?
The plus side is that it’ll free up a lot of time after the ceremony for other photos and that way, we are able to get to the reception sooner.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@dreamer1288: We did a first look but we live together so don’t really care about tradition! I’m also glad we did because it meant we didnt’ have to have a gap between ceremony and reception and we got to see each other before – I was a mess so nervous and anxious it really helped put me at ease.
Post # 4
@dreamer1288: We are going to do first look photos. We live together, and I don’t want to have our first look in front of everyone. We want a couple of minutes alone together before the ceremony. And I just love the pictures that I have seen from others who have done the first look.
Post # 5
We are definitely doing first look when we get married. My FI likes to act tough in front of family and friends but is also a big softie. I think if we did a first look, he will feel more comfortable expressing himself (cry, big grin, ec) rather than with everyone looking at him.
Post # 6
We’re doing a first look. I’m hoping it’ll help settle my nerves before the ceremony. Plus we’ll get all the photos out of the way while make up and hair is still fresh for both Bride and wedding party. After the ceremony my Groom and I will get some alone time while the rest of the group is enjoying cocktail hour. I’m really looking forward to that and just soaking up that fact that we’ll be married at that point. 🙂 19 days!
Post # 7
My husband did NOT want to do a first look, as he is a bit on the traditional side 🙂 We did not see each other until the moment I entered and began walking down the aisle. I must admit, seeing his face as he saw me in my wedding gown for the first time was one of my favorite wedding day memories!
We didn’t want to have a big, boring gap for our guests either, so we arranged for the guests to enjoy cocktail hour while we did post-ceremony photos. We did grandparents first, so they could go grab a nibble & a drink, then we did parents, then we had about 40 minutes left for the wedding party and some fun shots.
Luckily, our ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception were all at the same location (different parts of the building though) so nobody had to travel or anything.
The reception began when we entered the ballroom, so we missed cocktail hour (but the point of it was to avoid having guests stand around bored, hungry, and thirsty!)
Post # 8
I get the logistical appeal of first looks, but I would rather not do one personally. So of course we have to have a gap between ceremony and reception now which isn’t ideal either.
Post # 9
I love the 1st look! They are the best of our pics and the most memorable moment of our day. It made sense logistically and took away some of the nerves. I still got super emotional seeing DH at the end of the aisle and so did he!
Here’s a link to a recent poll on the same topic.
Post # 10
I absolutely recommend doing the First Look. It will be magical for you two! Here’s why:
– The first moment is between the both of you, no audience. Your emotions will probably be more authentic. I know I would have been so embarassed to cry in front of everyone!
– That being said, you will also be more comfortable walking down the aisle and during the ceremony.
– You look the most beautiful at the beginning with your hair and makeup the freshest.
– Great, honest photos.
Best of luck deciding! Either way it will be wonderful!
Post # 11
We didn’t do a first look. I am glad. Seeing his face light up when he saw me was priceless 🙂
ETA: We also lived together 🙂
Post # 12
I wanted to do a first look with my FI, but he didn’t want to. He says he doesn’t want to see me for the first time until the ceremony 🙁
But they do make such wonderful intimate photos. What does you FI think?
Post # 13
I was contemplating first look but mu husband said NO WAY! He is not really traditional but he was adamant about not seeing me before the ceremony. Now, we got married in Greece and the weddings there don’t start til later (ours started at 7pm) because of the heat (mainly in the summer) so having to wait til 7pm was a bit nerve wracking BUT nothing beats the special moment of him seeing you walk down the aisle and not having seen you before. I got emotional but who cares?! that’s what weddings are alll about! And to be honest, when I was walking down the aisle, I didn’t even notice the 300 people who were watching me walk down the aisle, it felt like it was just my husband to be and I. I find it to be more romantic and everyone loves to look at the groom and see his face when he is watching his future wife walk towards him. I feel that its not as romantic when the bride walks down the aisle and the groom has seen her already, but that is just me. I know others will disagree with this.
We did only family and group photos between the reception and ceremony to save time because what our photographer offered was a “day after” photo shoot which was basically us getting our wedding attire back on and doing our coupl-y shots. It wasn’t the day after but nearly a week later. It was a reason to wear my dress again! Maybe see if your photographer would offer this service if it interests you.
Also, to keep the guests entertained, we had musicians playing music.
Here are some photos, you can see the look on his face (and my face) when I’m walking down the aisle. The guests were all behind the groom. He meets me at this part and then the priest leads as to the alter. He is also holding my bouquet cause it is tradition in the Greek ceremony for the groom to wait at the alter holding the bride’s bouquet and to give it to her when she arrives
Post # 14
We did a first look, and then afterwards we actually hung out for about an hour with our wedding party before the wedding. For us, it was PERFECT. I was getting extremely anxious about time (I ran late getting ready, but in the end we scheduled enough time for first look pictures that we had –like I said– about an hour to just hang out and do nothing before the ceremony) and DH was there to calm me down like only he can. It was exactly what I needed to walk into the ceremony calm and happy!
Also, seeing eachother privately during our first look was exactly right for us. I got to cry a little without embarrassment, and I think it was an extremely special moment. It didn’t deminish the love and happiness I felt walking down the aisle to him at ALL.
Post # 15
We did a first look and I highly recommend it. It gave us time together and in private to soak in what was about to happen. It was such an emotional moment for us and I am glad I didn’t have to share that with the 130 other people invited. To be honest my DH still was just as thrilled/amazed/emotional etc when I walked down the aisle…it does NOT take away from that moment at all.
As a bonus it means less time after the ceremony is required for photos so you can get to your party and guests quicker.
Post # 16
All of your photos are very lovely! Thank you for all of y’all’s opinions!
My FI isn’t sure how to feel about it. He understands why it would be a good idea.. gives us less of a gap between the ceremony and the reception. But it’s such a modern idea, neither of us really know how to feel about it. I don’t think we’ll regret it either way.
My dad wants it to be traditional, of course :). But you are right when you say the photos and emotions will be more authentic.. and I may have a chance to touch up my make-up before the ceremony if I happen to cry like a little baby during the first look :).
All of you have awesome suggestions!!