Post # 1
So I need your opinions on first look photos. At first, I was completely against this as I wanted the first time my FI saw me to be while I was walking down the aisle. However, when we decided that we wanted an evening fall wedding, we realized that it would dark soon after the end of our ceremony leaving only about 15 minutes to take pictures in some daylight. So our photographer suggested a first look shot so that we can get our photos done before hand outside. We would also get a chance to mingle more with our guests during cocktail hour allowing for less formal hellos during the actual reception where we can just relax, dance, and actually get to be a part of our wedding instead of spending half of it bouncing from table to table.
I have seen some gorgeous fisrt look photos and think that this would still be a very special moment between the two of us. I still want to see him gasp or choke up a bit when I walk down the aisle though. What I was planning on doing was wearing a feather/comb in my hair for the first look and then switching to my cathedral veil and blusher for the ceremony. That way, the veil and blusher can be a surprise. (blushers alway make me tear up a bit and looks very bridal)
See this link for first look examples http://www.glendaloughmanor.com/blog/?p=2514
Post # 3
You’re going to get all sorts of different thoughts on this. People are usually very pro or anti first looks. Personally, we didn’t do it, and I’m very glad we didn’t. BUT we did a very untraditional walk down the aisle, in that DH and I walked down together. One thing I liked about the idea of a first look is the idea that you get a private moment together, and can calm the nerves (once we decided against a frist look, we thought of doing a “first touch,” but the logistics of the day just didn’t allow that to happen, and given certain other aspects of the day, mainly the fact that it was CRAZY HOT, it’s probably good we didn’t even do a first touch). The way we did it, DH waited at the top of a staircase, and then at the designated time, I came out a side door and walked towards him, and then we walked down the stairs and aisle together. His reaction as I was walking towards him was priceless. One of my favorite memories. It was so much better than what it would have been with a first look. But because we were on top of the stairs, with our guests below, it was also semi-private. I know we wouldn’t have had the same reaction had it been during a first look, and then he wouldn’t have had that reaction as I walked towards him if he’d seen me already. The photo below is the only one we have, which might not be the most frame worthy, but I love it because it brings back the emotion of the moment. I’m looking forward to seeing what our videographer captured. And even though we were taking photos during cocktail hour (and I have a whole bunch of frame worthy portraits), I was still able to participate in it a bit, and don’t feel like we missed out on anything by taking photos.
Edit: if you want to change your hair accessories for a first look and then for the ceremony, that is fine and dandy, but please don’t expect your FI to get all choked up by the change. You don’t want to be disappointed if he doesn’t have the same reaction to blushers as you do. Personally, I think brides think their SOs care *WAY* more about dresses/veils/etc than they really do. Unless your groom is very into fashion, it’s unlikely the change will have any affect on him.
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Post # 5
I really want a cry picture- and I know FI has it in him lol I just don’t think he will infront of 100 other people since I’ve only seen him cry in front of me. Never anyone else.
but i want to be traditional !
For me it would ruin it.
ITs really up to you how traditional you want to be- plus this is a new traditional so its now classic tradational or modern! lol
Post # 6
It was THE best decision for us.
To me it’s the reaction that matters, not where that happens. For me, I knew my hubs would give the best reaction privately. It was wonderful spending time together before being in front of our guests.
Also, we are both VERY anti gap for photos. So we wanted to get our pictures done ahead of time. Our ceremony was also not until 7:30 pm, so didn’t want people to have to wait before getting the party started.
Post # 7
I truely believe that you can still get the “gasp” picture you want if you have the photographers ready when you walk out for the first look special. Actually you can argue that it would be more intimate if there aren’t a bunch of people around.
Post # 8
Our time together before the ceremony was the best part of the day. It didn’t ruin the ceremony – it created a pocket of time on our wedding day for just us, and I wouldn’t have traded it for anything!
Post # 9
@alishaloo: Every photog I know says that gasp/cry picture never happens. It just doesn’t. Every bride wants it and it only happens every 500th wedding or so…
Post # 10
DH did not cry during our first look and we both were a mess at the ceremony (well I was a mess at both). I wore my veil both times so it really was just the ceremony that made a difference.
Post # 11
This is such a personal decision! We didn’t have a first look and it worked out beautifully. I don’t believe “that moment” would have been nearly as special (for us) had we already seen each other. It was so amazing! I’m thankful for and happy about our decision.