Post # 1
I can’t decide if I want to do the “first look” before the ceremony or not. My fiance wants to do it before the ceremony. Not because it will be romantic- he wants to do it so we can get alot of the pictures out of the way (Sigh… men). I know that it probably makes the most sense so we can maximize time with our photographers, but I really wanted him to be surprised (and hopefully emotional) when he sees me walking down the aisle. Kinda corny, I know, but that’s how I’ve always pictured it in my head. I am afraid if we do the first look before that it won’t have the same feel. However, I read an article recently that said the groom is NOT necesarily less emotional when he sees you walking down the aisle after doing the first look before the ceremony. It said that couples are often more emotional for the first look AND the the ceremony. Still, I am not 100% sold. Would love to hear what you all think and what others have done. Thanks!
Post # 3
We did a first look and it was still romantic and special. I liked having tme for the two of us together without everyone else looking at us. The walk down the aisle was still emotional for us. It also helped us to not be completely stressed out with taking pictures after the wedding when I was already starting to get hungry.
Post # 4
I vote wait because I feel the same as you: that the ceremony wont be as special if hes already seen you. Thats just my opinion though.
Post # 5
I was torn on what to do too. I’m very traditional and wanted that moment I walked down the aisle to be special. But, this link really helped me decide on the first look http://thethingswewouldblog.blogspot.ca/2012/04/wedding-wednesday.html
I’m not married yet, so I can’t tell you for sure it was a good choice, but I’m pretty sure it will be!
Post # 6
It’s your wedding day – there’s no way for it to NOT be romantic and special, I promise! Getting photos out of the way beforehand gives the two of you precious time alone together before you spend the evening talking and dancing with everyone else! Our first look session was honestly my favorite part of the day.
Post # 7
We waited until the ceremony. Don’t regret it at all. The pictures afterwards went really fast and it was definitely the coolest feeling watching him just start to grin ear-to-ear when he saw me for the first time. I would wait. The pics don’t need to take forever and it really is special.
Post # 8
I wanted to do a first look, but FH was really adamant about not doing one. He’s more traditional than I am and it’s really the only thing he for sure said he didn’t want.
Either way, it’s going to be romantic.
Post # 9
@IowaDDS13: Thanks! That is a good article. 🙂
Where in Iowa do you live? Nearly all of my family lives there! 🙂
Post # 10
@jeanniemarieaz: No problem 🙂 I’m in the Cedar Rapids area, where’s your family from?
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
I really didn’t want a first look until we talked to our photographer. My FI is pretty shy and neither of us love being in the spotlight, and our photographer said she has photographed weddings where they didn’t do a first look and the groom just has a fake smile plastered on his face with no emotion registering because he’s so nervous and doesn’t know what to do with himself. My FI then decided that we needed to do a first look so he can relax a little and be in the moment when I do walk down the aisle, and I am okay with that now. I know I’ll be a bundle of nerves also, so it will be nice to get the first look part over with earlier and then not be freaking out as much when the ceremony comes.
Post # 12
@IowaDDS13: They’re all over the state! Des Moines, Indianola, Webster City, Fort Dodge, Urbandale, Oceola, Iowa City… I can’t even remember all the places anymore 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I’m doing a first look because I want to maximize time with the photographer, and I also want to attend my cocktail hour and not keep my guests waiting. I’m not worried about it being less special or emotional
Post # 14
We did ours before and of course the walk down the aisle is still special. If you do it before your SO will be the first to see you in all your beauty on your special day, its a moment the two of you can share intimately instead of with all of your guests.
Post # 15
Honestly, our first look pictures are SO cute and emotional that I recommend everyone to do them. It’s nice to get the first look pictures without other people being caught in the background (e.g. officiant, bridal party, parents, etc.) and honestly, it was still a butterflies/scary/exciting feeling when I walked down the aisle later. However, I think that we were a lot more emotional for our first look since it was “private” then had we just waited to see each other at the ceremony. I always count on SO for his opinion for the rest of my attire/looks, so it was also important to me that he was able to validate my feelings and appearance at our first look.
Post # 16
THANKS SO MUCH EVERYONE. This has been really helpful! 🙂