First look thoughts…..

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We did a first look and I don’t regret it at all.  For us, it was mainly a logistics decision; we wanted to enjoy our cocktail hour.  I personally don’t really understand the mentality of wanting to “surprise” your groom walking down the aisle (nothing wrong with it, I just don’t get it), so the first look decision wasn’t a hard one for me.  Other brides may feel differently though.  One pleasantly surprising thing about the first look was how intimate and calming of a moment it was just before the ceremony.  We had incredible photographers, so we didn’t even notice them being there.

Post # 4
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am doing a first look.  Time is the main reason, but here is my number 1 most important reason for it;

I’m going to be nervous before my wedding.  I will likely be paniced and emotional.  There is only one person I have found that will keep me calm prety much no mater what and that is FH.  There is so much going on that day, I want him to help me not fall off the emotional rollercoster.

Post # 5
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Thats cute that he said that…and it is a good point!

Post # 6
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Fmjxn:  I thought well of course, why wouldn’t you want to have each other to yourself even for a few minutes on one of the most important days of your lives.

Absolutely, because it will likely be the ONLY moments you have alone all day. We did a first look and it was the most amazing experience, caught on film of course. The things he said, I said…hilarious! I am so thrilled that when he did see me for the first time I got to hear and see up close his reaction (he repeated wow over and over again followed by a “your dress is amazing.”).

I know that some people want that aisle moment and my words to them is a first look takes NOTHING away from that moment. When I was walking towards my soon to be husband I felt overwhelmed, emotional and just as special.

Post # 7
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC

We’re planning a private ceremony, so it’s not totally the same, but I really like the idea of just spending a little time together after getting ready and letting it all soak in before saying our vows.  

I really like his point though!

Post # 8
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We did a first look, and what I WOULD actually change about it is that I would hvae done it privately. Our bridal party was standing there chatting and adjusting themselves and that bothered me. The moment was nice but it wasn’t nearly as special as it would have been were it just the two of us.

The other thing I do regret is that I barely even looked at him going down the aisle, I was so distracted seeing who was there and saying hi, beacuse I’d already spent most of the afternoon with him. I think that had we seen each other for the first time in that moment that I might have paid more attention. Or, maybe not, and then I’d REALLY be upset because I never would have seen his face the first time he saw me.

Either way, doing a first look made our day and doing photo’s go SO much smoother and be so much less stressful than the weddings I’ve been in, and to, that try to cram it all in during cocktail hour.

Post # 10
6194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I loved having a first look- it made photos so much less complicated! He still choked up when I came down the aisle =)

Post # 11
1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

like you a wasn’t sure to start with but it was mainly a logistical reason for us. You know what though? I absolutely loved it!! I am so, so happy we did have a first look and my husband, who want too convinced either,  said to me at the end of the night that he was really glad we did it too and that it was his favorite moment of the day. I have to agree with him 🙂 

for us we literally felt like we didn’t have one moment to ourselves in the week running up to the wedding until that one moment. It was all nerves before then and as soon as I saw him a feeling calm and happiness just washed over me. It was an incredible feeling. 

Trust me, you won’t regret it! 🙂 

Post # 12
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

Do the first look! My husband and I did. I will never forget the look in his eyes!

Post # 13
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am doing a first look and it’s what I am looking most forward too!!


Why don’t you do your first look at the aisle? I think it would be so romantic having pictures/video of your walking down an empty aisle to your fiance. Best of both worlds!

Post # 14
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I regret not doing a first look. I will say that I disagree with PPs about not having personal time later bc we did. However, cocktail hour wasnt long enough for all the pics we really wanted and we cant go back in time and change that.

Post # 15
9204 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

We will not be doing a first look. For me I want the first moment FI sees me on our wedding day to be when I walk down the aisle on my father’s arm 🙂 FI doesn’t like first looks either. But for everyone else, whatever floats their boat.

Post # 16
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Fmjxn:  We did a first look and I don’t regret it at all. It was so nice to have a couple moments before the ceremony for just us. It also didn’t steal away from the aisle moment at all! Let me tell you, I was so happy! I started walking down the aisle and I immediately looked at some of my friends who were sitting towards the back, I was just smilling away. Then I looked up to see my groom, and as soon as I saw him I completely lost it. We’re talking full on ugly cry. It didn’t matter that I had seen him a few minutes before, when I saw him there waiting for me I just lost it.

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