Post # 1
So my fiance and I are not even close to our wedding day. The conversation started after talking about our engagement pictures and then went to our pictures for our wedding day. I really wanted to wait to see him for the first time going down the aisle, he wanted the first look. I knew in the end that I wouldn’t be able to have it may way, because of time constraints, but I still really really wanted the aisle moment.
Then, FI said something that made me completely change my mind and I don’t know why I didn’t think of it that way sooner. I said I’ve always dreamt of having that aisle momenta and want to wait. FI said, I don’t want to wait to see you, I want to see you before everyone else gets to see you. That made me think, well damn, if anyone deserves to see me first it definitely is my groom and man I’m going to marry. I thought well of course, why wouldn’t you want to have each other to yourself even for a few minutes on one of the most important days of your lives. Be selfish, because after all it really is all about us, and no matter when we decide to get our picturse taken, as long as we are married by the end of the day, it will be perfect.
So, even though we are still a long ways away from our wedding day, and perhaps a trivial decision in the end, I felt like I wanted to share that conversation with you ladies 🙂
Post # 3
We did a first look and I don’t regret it at all. For us, it was mainly a logistics decision; we wanted to enjoy our cocktail hour. I personally don’t really understand the mentality of wanting to “surprise” your groom walking down the aisle (nothing wrong with it, I just don’t get it), so the first look decision wasn’t a hard one for me. Other brides may feel differently though. One pleasantly surprising thing about the first look was how intimate and calming of a moment it was just before the ceremony. We had incredible photographers, so we didn’t even notice them being there.
Post # 4
I am doing a first look. Time is the main reason, but here is my number 1 most important reason for it;
I’m going to be nervous before my wedding. I will likely be paniced and emotional. There is only one person I have found that will keep me calm prety much no mater what and that is FH. There is so much going on that day, I want him to help me not fall off the emotional rollercoster.
Post # 5
Thats cute that he said that…and it is a good point!
Post # 6
@Fmjxn: I thought well of course, why wouldn’t you want to have each other to yourself even for a few minutes on one of the most important days of your lives.
Absolutely, because it will likely be the ONLY moments you have alone all day. We did a first look and it was the most amazing experience, caught on film of course. The things he said, I said…hilarious! I am so thrilled that when he did see me for the first time I got to hear and see up close his reaction (he repeated wow over and over again followed by a “your dress is amazing.”).
I know that some people want that aisle moment and my words to them is a first look takes NOTHING away from that moment. When I was walking towards my soon to be husband I felt overwhelmed, emotional and just as special.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC
We’re planning a private ceremony, so it’s not totally the same, but I really like the idea of just spending a little time together after getting ready and letting it all soak in before saying our vows.
I really like his point though!
Post # 8
We did a first look, and what I WOULD actually change about it is that I would hvae done it privately. Our bridal party was standing there chatting and adjusting themselves and that bothered me. The moment was nice but it wasn’t nearly as special as it would have been were it just the two of us.
The other thing I do regret is that I barely even looked at him going down the aisle, I was so distracted seeing who was there and saying hi, beacuse I’d already spent most of the afternoon with him. I think that had we seen each other for the first time in that moment that I might have paid more attention. Or, maybe not, and then I’d REALLY be upset because I never would have seen his face the first time he saw me.
Either way, doing a first look made our day and doing photo’s go SO much smoother and be so much less stressful than the weddings I’ve been in, and to, that try to cram it all in during cocktail hour.
Post # 9
After reading your comments, it has further solidified this decision! 🙂 He was very happy when I told him that he had changed my mind. 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I loved having a first look- it made photos so much less complicated! He still choked up when I came down the aisle =)
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
like you a wasn’t sure to start with but it was mainly a logistical reason for us. You know what though? I absolutely loved it!! I am so, so happy we did have a first look and my husband, who want too convinced either, said to me at the end of the night that he was really glad we did it too and that it was his favorite moment of the day. I have to agree with him 🙂
for us we literally felt like we didn’t have one moment to ourselves in the week running up to the wedding until that one moment. It was all nerves before then and as soon as I saw him a feeling calm and happiness just washed over me. It was an incredible feeling.
Trust me, you won’t regret it! 🙂
Post # 12
Do the first look! My husband and I did. I will never forget the look in his eyes!
Post # 13
I am doing a first look and it’s what I am looking most forward too!!
Why don’t you do your first look at the aisle? I think it would be so romantic having pictures/video of your walking down an empty aisle to your fiance. Best of both worlds!
Post # 14
I regret not doing a first look. I will say that I disagree with PPs about not having personal time later bc we did. However, cocktail hour wasnt long enough for all the pics we really wanted and we cant go back in time and change that.
Post # 15
We will not be doing a first look. For me I want the first moment FI sees me on our wedding day to be when I walk down the aisle on my father’s arm 🙂 FI doesn’t like first looks either. But for everyone else, whatever floats their boat.
Post # 16
@Fmjxn: We did a first look and I don’t regret it at all. It was so nice to have a couple moments before the ceremony for just us. It also didn’t steal away from the aisle moment at all! Let me tell you, I was so happy! I started walking down the aisle and I immediately looked at some of my friends who were sitting towards the back, I was just smilling away. Then I looked up to see my groom, and as soon as I saw him I completely lost it. We’re talking full on ugly cry. It didn’t matter that I had seen him a few minutes before, when I saw him there waiting for me I just lost it.