Post # 1
We have chosen our photographer for the wedding and we love him! He told us that he usually does the First Look before the ceremony and tries to get all of the bridal and family pictures done before the ceremony so that we can actually go to our cocktail hour and enjoy it with our guests. My FI and I were both hesitant, especially him, as he wants the first time he sees me to be when I walk down the aisle. Our photographer said lots of people feel that way, but not one couple has regretted doing the first look. He said it was up to us, but that we will only have 1.5 ours to do them during cocktail hour, VS more time before the ceremony starts… so now I am not totally sure what to do… I love the idea of not seeing eachother until the moment I walk down the aisle, but the more pracitical side of me is telling me to do the first look so that A: he and I can have that special little moment just him and I, and B: so that we can get all the jitters out, have some fun, and relax so that when I do walk down the aisle, it will be more relaxed… and then we can take it easy afterwards instead of rushing to get all the pictures done.
Does anyone have any thoughts or experiences with this?
Post # 2
First look was one of our best decisions. We were a little hestitant at first but it made things so much smoother and I don’t regret it one bit. He would not have been emotional standing in front of 300 family and friends but just the two of us, we felt more comfortable together.
Post # 3
We did the first look and we both loved it!! It was amazing just the two of us in that special little moment. The pictures turned out amazing! It’s definitely something I recommend. The photographer is right. There’s not much time if you don’t do it that way for the cocktail hour.
Post # 4
I want to do half and half. I want to do the photos of my with my parents and with my bridesmaid(s), I also want to have the groom with his family and his men before the ceremony. That way the initial viewing is still a surprise (great photos) and then there are only a few left of us together, the entire bridal party and families. It will save half the time but not ruin the suprise.
Post # 5
SCam: We’re doing ‘first look’ for pretty much the reasons you described.
We’re having a 6:45pm ceremony and doing all of our pictures before hand. I like the idea of having pictures right away while we’re still ‘fresh’ and also giddy! Our smiles will not be as forced because we won’t be tired from the days events, and I’m really looking forward to having that special time with my FI before things get too ‘crazy’.
We weren’t crazy about the idea at first either, but it did seem practical, and it seemed like it would allow the rest of the day to be more relaxing without having to leave everyone to get pictures done. We’re still doing a couple family pictures immediately following the ceremony, but not many, we’ll be able to start celebrating with our guests almost right away.
Post # 6
We didn’t do the first look and I do not regret it. Honestly, it was stessful getting ready and I can’t even imagine having the time for it. We did do some pictures before of just us seperately with our party’s and respective bridal party members. The look on my husband’s face when he first saw me was priceless and is probably my favorite photo of the wedding. We got married in a church so there was a venue change and we had an hour and a half gap. We only arrived 10 minutes late and that was mostly because our cab driver got lost. Honestly, with all that went on it was nice having a bit of time after being married to celebrate with just my husband and bridal party taking pictures before having to worry about talking to ALL my guests.
Post # 7
SCam: I refused to do a first look. In my opinion they are merely a ploy by photographers to make getting all the shots they need faster and more convenient. My husband and I refused to do one, and while my photographer wasn’t thrilled he obviously did what we wanted. I am not all that traditional, but not being seen by my groom before the ceremony was a tradition I did not want to give up, and he agreed. I have seen some pretty first look photos, but for the most part I find them kind of strange. We were able to get plenty of bridal party shots, getting ready shots, and portraits done before the ceremony and we still made it to the end of our cocktail hour.