(Closed) First Look yes or no???

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: First Look YES or NO
    YES : (109 votes)
    60 %
    NO : (73 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yes. Look at the amazing pictures that people get from it, not to mention you can knock out all of your group photos before the ceremony = less time guests are waiting around.

    Post # 5
    5967 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Nope, wasn’t for us.  I understand why people do them, but Mr. 99 and I wanted to be in the moment, and have that exhilirating experience of seeing each other for the first time that day, for the last time as two separate people and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

    Post # 6
    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We decided against a first look mostly because Darling Husband was very, very set against seeing me before the wedding ceremony.  We did do a “first touch” though.  I’m glad we didn’t do the first look because thinking back on my wedding day, one of my absolute favorite moments was seeing his face as he saw me for the first time walking down the aisle.

    We also had organized things logistically so that we’d have time after the ceremony for all of our group shots.  Our ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception were all at the same location.  Immediately after the ceremony, our guests were able go up and enjoy drinks and light snacks as we took our formal photos.  We did grandparents shots, then parents next so they could all go up and mingle.  It took us about another 45 minutes to get all of our wedding party pics, etc… 

    It went very smoothly because we had a fantastic venue coordinator and a wonderful photography team ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Just for giggles, here is our firs NOT looking photo:

    Post # 7
    7462 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I used to be SO against first looks, but now I am starting to change my mind. My fiancé and I both really don’t like being the center of attention, and I’m starting to think that we would both have a more genuine reaction if we see each other with just the two of us (and the photgrapher). My fiancé seems like a big, strong guy in front of people, but he’s really just a huge softie ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
    2287 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    I wanted to but FH does not want to see me before the ceremony so we are doing a first touch instead. 

    Post # 9
    504 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    the first touch look is kinda cute lol did you guys write notes to eachother? 

    Post # 10
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We are doing one and I am really happy about it. Our wedding and reception is in the same location (ceremony at 5:30), so we only have to take a few extended family portraits after the ceremony and then can go and immediately enjoy our reception. I’m glad our guests won’t have to wait around. I’m sure we would have done things differently with the timeline if we weren’t doing a first look/wedding party photos before hand.

    Post # 11
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    No. Our photographer tried very hard to convince us to do one, but I am glad we did not. We had formal pictures next to the reception, so our bridal party and parents could join cocktail hour and enjoy the food.

    Post # 12
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We were torn on the idea but then I started looking through First Look photos and to me, I felt they were kind of strange. Like the photos seem a bit awkward and staged?? I don’t want to insult anyone that does do them, but personally, it did make me realize/reinforce that I prefer off the cuff, natural, non posed photography. Looking back, I don’t even know when we would have had the time to even do a first look, I was down to the wire in getting ready and even delayed the ceremony a bit as I was finishing up my hair.

    Post # 13
    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    We’re not doing it. I would look at our wedding photos and think “we weren’t actually married”. Also, (as the blog post abot them said) I am not a fan of the first look photos, bride taps groom on shoulder. The only way I would do it would be if we could get into the church before, and he could stand at the end of the aisle and I could walk towards him, and we could have our moment in the church. That’s important to me, that feeling of walking down the aisle. 

    We are also hosting our wedding in a small city, in one location and I don’t really want to see all my guests before the ceremony. Not that I dont’ want to see them, I just don’t feel like I would want to talk to people before the ceremony. I just want to get ready, be relaxed and calm and prepare myself mentally for the day.


    Post # 14
    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @jbridea:  We did pass a little note to each other ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 15
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We’re planning on doing a first look. I get nervous and flustered easily, and he is such an introvert that I think having the time alone together before the ceremony will be really good for us. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We did one and it worked well for us. Then again, we also spent the night before the wedding together, had breakfast together that morning, invited all of our guests to join us for wedding day activities, and generally tried to spend as much time as possible with eachother, our friends, and our family. I had no desire for all of those traditions about keeping the bride sequestered and such, as that would most definitely not be a reflection of Mr. LK and I or our relationship. We also didn’t do the whole bride taps groom on the shoulder thing. Again, we don’t act like that in real life, so why would we want to act that way for photos. I just came through a doorway while he was waiting on the other side.

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