Post # 1
FI and I are starting to seriously consider doing a first look before our wedding. I love the idea of having that private moment with just the two of us.
That said, FI’s friend did a first look for his wedding last year. About 95% of the pictures of the couple were done during their first look session. The pictures look amazing, but (to me) it’s very noticable that the groom wasn’t wearing a wedding ring. The bride’s engagement ring is so beautiful that the missing wedding ring wasn’t aparent.
I’m thinking if we do a first look, I’d like us to wear our wedding rings. That way if we chose some of those pictures to put around the house, I won’t always be staring at his bare finger. Did any of you think about this or notice it afterwards?
Thanks so much!!
Post # 3
It’s up to you. If you’re comfortable wearing them before the ceremony, I think it’s completely fine.
Post # 4
I’m glad I’m not the only one who struggled with this! I think we’ll be wearing our rings for the same reason – all of our pictures are before so any pictures we would want to put up would not have us with the rings, and I don’t want to have to explain to anyone down the road haha.
Post # 5
We did a first look and my DH didn’t wear his ring. It is totally up to the couple, but it is such a minor detail, it isn’t something I worried about.
Many men don’t wear rings at all (Prince William and my DH don’t actually). So no big deal. 🙂
Post # 6
Why does it matter?
It’s obviously a picture of your wedding day. I’m not sure why it would matter that you aren’t wearing the rings yet.
Post # 7
@crayfish: Yes it will obviously be a pic of the wedding day. But, while minor, it’s an important detail to the day, for me at least. The same reason why a bride might choose to wear a spcial bracelet or necklace.. because it completes the look.
Post # 8
Oh man, I didn’t even think of this. We’re doing a first look, too. I think we’ll probably wear our bands, now that you bring it up haha. I’m gonna wanna put mine on all the time anyway, so a few hours before the ceremony won’t hurt!
Post # 9
Think of it this way: Will it bother you when you get your pictures back and you see those pictures with your rings on? It would bother me because I am putting together several albums that will tell the story of our day. We didn’t do a first look but, if we had and we had worn our rings, I wouldn’t be able to put those pictures in the correct order. It just really depends on how you are going to feel about those pictures after the day. Personlly, I wouldn’t wear the rings until after you are married, but that is just my opinion.
Post # 10
We wore our rings during the first look before the wedding ceremony. It’s was our wedding day. To us, it didn’t matter that the pictures were technically before the ceremony – it’s still the day we got married on.
We also didn’t get many pictures after the ceremony, so I’m glad we had those other pictures with our rings on. Only a few people actually know when the pictures were taken.
Post # 11
ha, I had totally misinterpreted the definition of “first look”!
I thought that if you choose to have a photo session before the wedding, you miss out on the special moment when your FI sees you in your dress for the first time.
so I thought the concept of the “first look” was invented so you could have a private moment before the big photo session starts. you meet up with him in a room somewhere, and he sees you in your dress for the first time, and you have a “moment”. (but of course the photographer is there, shhhhhhhhh!)
well, anyway….. I thought about the issue of having rings in the photo session too. I am going to have us wear ours, I mean, the bulk of this photo session is kind of pretending the photos were taken after the wedding. I’m not superstitious, I think it’s ok to wear the rings.
Post # 12
I think its okay since the purpose of the first look is to ensure you stay on schedule and get your pictures out of the way… I mean traditionally the pictures are taken after youre married but now youre doing them before so I think its okay to wear your rings as long as you remember to give them back
In years to come you dont want wedding photos without your rings
Post # 13
I am so glasd you made this thread because I was wondering the same thing! I think FI and I are going to wear them because I really want the pictures to have our rings on.
Post # 14
We did “first look” photos and I never even thought about having the groom wear his ring. His is off in all of our pictures but I didn’t even think about it until now…haha.
That said, “first look” was such a good idea for us. It allowed us to get the obligatory photos out of the way, take some family shots and then enjoy our wedding & reception without worrying about keeping the guests waiting while we took pictures.
My cousin just got married and she kept everyone waiting to eat dinner for an hour and a half while they drove around town taking pictures. The guests all swarmed the appetizers because we were starving- kinda scary, like ravenous animals 🙂
So regardless of what you decide with the rings- I highly recommend doing the first look photos (with our without rings).
Post # 15
I think it’s fine, but if I did a first look I wouldn’t wear my wedding ring. Why? Because we’re not married yet, and I want to capture the moments in “real” time. I don’t want to wear my ring before he puts it on my finger 🙂 We’ll do pictures of my wedding band after the wedding.
Post # 16
I didn’t notice the missing ring in any of our pictures. And I don’t think I would mind if it wasn’t there, as we weren’t married yet. We had plenty of pictures of us after we were married during cocktail hour. If you wanted any close up of your hands, maybe you can request that they’re taking after the ceremony.