(Closed) First Looks, Tell me you experience!

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1426 posts
Bumble bee

Tons of threads on this.  I think a lot of ladies who HAVE done it didn’t regret it, and other’s haven’t done it because they wanted that feeling of first seeing each other walking down the aisle.

Darling Husband and I did a frist look, mostly because of the time-line we chose we had to.  I absolutely don’t regret it and would choose to do it again.  Darling Husband has NEVER been speechless and he was that moment I walked in.  I had to keep asking, “Do you like my dress?  What about my hair?  The huge train?”  It didn’t take away from the ceremony at all either, Darling Husband was still holding back tears.  To add, as well, Darling Husband and I were never huge on that “moment” of walking down the aisle.

Post # 4
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Darling Husband and I aren’t that traditional and had a pretty casual attitude towards the wedding, so we did a first look for the practicality of it photography-wise. I mainly enjoyed it because I got to spend time with Darling Husband before the wedding ceremony instead of only seeing him once the guests had all arrived and we couldn’t get a second to ourselves.

Walking down the aisle was still amazing, it was still the romantic moment that every bride dreams of and by no means diminished by the fact that we’d been hanging out together in our fancy clothes all day.

So yes, we’re super glad we did it.

Post # 5
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are also doing a first look.  We are getting married at a golf club but we wanted a few pictures in the city.  So we are getting ready in the city and doing our first look in the city and then more pictures at our venue.  We wanted our bridal party to enjoy the cocktail hour also instead of spending it taking pictures.

Post # 6
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ll be honest, I wasn’t convinced about the idea of a first look before the wedding.  The traditional side of me kind of wanted the first time Darling Husband saw me to be when I walked down the aisle.  But due to planning and coordinating of the day purposes, I decided it would be better to do a first look, even if it wasn’t necessaryily my first choice.

Now, having done it, I am SO GLAD we did a first look.  I love our pictures from it and it was so nice to have so quality alone time with Darling Husband before the ceremony.  It was pretty much the only alone time we got all day so it was really special.  Despite having been hesitant about it at first, I’d definitely recommend a first look!

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ETA: Oh – and the walk down the aisle to Darling Husband in front of everyone and on my father’s arm was still incredibly special!

Post # 7
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I hate first looks.  My Dad and Step-Mom did it.  I was in the wedding, and the ceremony was so anti-climactic to me because my father had already seen her.  

At my first wedding, we didn’t do a first look and we had plenty of time after to take our photos and to get to the reception site with enough time to have a glass of champagne and some food and get my dress bustled before walking in for the reception.

This time around, we’re not doing a first look either. I’ve spent all this time keeping my day-of look a secret from my fiance.  I cannot imagine showing him before he sees me walking towards him at the ceremony. I also personally feel that we shouldn’t be there for the cocktail hour.  I want my guests to watch us get married and then not to see us again until we are introduced into the reception as Mr. and Mrs.  That gives us over an hour to spend with each other, with our wedding party, and with our photographer.  That is definitely enough time if your photographer knows what s/he is doing.

Post # 8
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Mrs.KMM:  this! I wasn’t sold either, but it worked so much better from a photography aspect. Looking back, it’s one of the best choices we made.

I still remember every moment of our first look and how amazing it was. Honestly one of the best moments of the day. The pictures from it are really great too….so much emotion and love in them! I don’t feel it took anything away from walking down the aisle….which is mostly a blur anyway! I was pretty focused on not falling, throwing up, making a stupid face to be caught on film forever!

I would highly recommend it, those few minutes of quiet time for the two of you are so wonderful in a busy, chaotic day!


@mrsSonthebeach:  so the ceremony was anti-climactic to you? I guess I’m confused how you can hate it if you haven’t actually done it? Did your dad and step-Mom hate it?  I guess I didn’t think about it being important to anyone besides Darling Husband and I.

Post # 9
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@hisgoosiegirl:  Yeah, it was anti-climactic for me.  My Dad regreted it too.  He told me not to do it.

I was at a wedding 2 years ago where a very close friend did a first look, and guests saw her.  Not on purpose.  It will depend on venue, but there are a lot of places where it would be hard to guarantee you would have a place (that is pretty) for your first look where guests would not see you.

From my own experience, I’m really glad I didn’t do it the first time, and I’m not planning to do it this time either.  I do think the photos are adorable, but I’m preferring to have a private moment with my husband (which he will then be at the point) after the reception with the photographer.  We’re going to dance alone on the rooftop or our hotel, overlooking the ocean, and he’s going to play a song on his guitar for me and sing.  We won’t be on anyone else’s schedule and we can still have that beautiful, intimate moment without ruining the tradition and surprise of the TRUE first look–when he sees me at the top of the boardwalk, coming down to the sand.

Post # 10
378 posts
Helper bee

I’ve responded in so many threads like this already but I will happily share our first look experience again because it was so much fun 🙂 I really liked having that time alone together to just be us. We got to be silly and hug and get rid of our nerves and it was our favorite part of the day. We did our first look at a location that was a few minutes awayfrom our venue so none of our guests say us. He waited with his back turned at the end of a long “aisle” of trees and it still felt like Wewalkin down the aisle for me. I think the photos we have from the first look (and the next 30 min where we took photos together) are my absolute favorite because we look so happy and relaxed.

Here are some of my favs from the first look.




Post # 11
378 posts
Helper bee

Sorry they ended up in a weird order. I’m on my phone and it autocorrected some of my words in a weird way and wouldn’t let me put the pictures in the right order. Lol

Post # 12
23636 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Darling Husband wasn’t a huge fan of the concept of a first look, and wanted to be traditional, but he was so glad we did one.  We loved the photos we got from our first look, and it also gave us an opportunity to spend time together before the ceremony, not to mention it gave us time to mingle with our guests during cocktail hour since we got most of our photos (even the ones with our bridal party) done before the ceremony!

AND…Darling Husband was still a mess when I walked down the aisle, so it was almost like we had a second “first look”.  Seeing me with my dad, he just lost it.

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