Post # 1
I love weddingbee, but i blame it for putting all these wonderful ideas in my head! No just kidding weddingbee, I love you! But for reals, I never knew about a first look until coming to the hive. I loved the cute pictures that couples had from them and being able to capture the complete joy of that moment!
When I first mentioned the idea of possibly doing one before the ceremony I thought he was going to rip my head off! He was very adamant about wanting his first time seeing me to be when I walk down the aisle. He doesn’t even want to know what my hair or makeup will look like, and is already planning on making sure he’s not home when I come home from my hair and makeup trial!
Has anyone else had their SO put their foot down on anything wedding related?
Post # 3
My FI is the same way! He is superstitious about seeing me in any of my wedding garb – even my SHOES! I wanted to do the first look only to save time, but in the end I don’t think it’ll be worth it. I REALLY want him to see me for the first time walking down the aisle.
Post # 4
@napabridekelsey: After hearing his reaction and thinking about it more, I agree! I really want to see him for the first time walking down the aisle and see his reaction!
Post # 5
lol My fiance is just like yours. He even freaked out when I was discussing what type of bra I would need with my sister, even though it gave NOTHING away about the dress. I think it’s cute. 🙂
Post # 6
We did the first look and we are both so glad we did! I was feeling pretty stressed that day, mostly with anticipation, and as soon as we got that first look over with I felt like I was able to calm down a little bit and enjoy the day. Doing the first look also gave us the time to take portraits together before the ceremony and we did all of our group pics (family and bridal party) after the ceremony…we wouldn’t have had enough time for both or had as much variety. I think my husband did have some thoughts about seeing me walk down the isle for the first time…but he got over it pretty quick. It was also nice having our first look just be US…we got to share that special moment without everyone watching.
Post # 7
We’re doing it and my fiance was just like yours until…I emailed him links about the joys of doing a first look from wedding bee. Thanks to all the bees for sharing their wonderful pictures, he’s just as excited about it as I am!!!
Post # 8
my fi also wants to see me for the first time when i walk down the aisle… so we are not doing a first look… i think it will be super special when the doors open and i am standing there… i cant wait to see his face!
Post # 9
We did it and the walk down the aisle was still super special. I won’t go on about it though because that’s not what you are asking about in this thread.
Post # 10
I too suggested the first look to my husband but he wasnt interested. It was one of the only things he really cared about because he said he had always pictured seeing me for the first time as I walked down the aisle. It was perfect for us and we still got great pictures! Do whatever feels right to you!
Post # 11
We had a first look, and we’re so happy we did.
It’s nice because the photographer can get a really good picture of the grooms expression when he first sees the bride, which if there’s only one photographer can be hard to capture during the ceremony.
However, I don’t like the way some photographers do the first look though… They have the groom facing them before he turns around, and then when he turns around they get a great picture of his back and you can’t see his expression for the first look. The pictures above are perfect example of that. They get great pictures of the bride’s expression, but completely miss the groom’s expression, and that’s the point of the First Look.
Post # 12
@Loribeth: I completely agree! I am laying down the law with my photographer…picture of groom’s face, OR ELSE!!!
Post # 14
I think there’s something so romantic about seeing each other for the first time while you’re walking down the aisle. I, too, have given strict instructions to the photographers and videographers (we have a team of 2 of each which works out great) that I want his reaction documented!!
Post # 15
@soon2bhis: Our photographer and videographer stood behind me, and I was the one who told DH when he could turn around. Our videographer asked him to turn around slowly, which worked out really great, because they were able to capture every nuance of his expressions.
Post # 16
@MrsMaine: There is something romantic about having him see you the first time when you’re walking down the aisle. It’s very traditional and public. Everyone at the ceremony is there…although they probably don’t notice the groom’s expression, because everyone has stood to watch the bride enter. But it is romantic when the groom and bride lock eyes when she enters.
However, there’s something romantic about doing the first look also. It’s a private moment, shared with very few. The groom doesn’t have to stand waiting for his bride to reach him. He can tell her how beautiful she is and take her into his arms right then. Another thing that some couples don’t think about is it also the last chance to kiss each other before the ceremony… The next time you kiss, it will be as husband and wife.