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    Lish    October 10th, 2009   Memphis, TN

    So.
    My wedding planning has weathered my bride brain mostly unscathed until this point.
    Yes, I have tons to do still - I'm a natural procrastinator and knew it was going to happen.

    But.
    Today, I got in my invites.

    Now, you see, I'm a card person - a paper lover, and when I looked at the budget for wedding my guy (the important part) and feeding 400 people I knew I'd have to make cuts.  (And 400 people only goes to the first cousins and CLOSEST friends)
    So while paper was important to me, it wasn't to my guy - and it didn't make sense to him to spend money on something that most folks tend to dispose of anyway.

    So I got the photographer of my dreams and had to give up my dream invites and go with digital prints.
    Which is fine.  I can do this compromise bit.
    And many, many times digital printing turns out gorgeously.

    Mine didn't.
    The card stock is flimsier than discussed.
    The envelope is thin.
    Even my save the dates and thank you cards are of nicer stock!

    After discussing the mistake, the printer says they'll let me keep the ones I have at 50% off if I don't make them reprint them.

    And so I'm debating internally - reprint?  Or save a bit of dough?

    Anyone else have to make this presently-agonizing-but-not-important-in-the-scheme-of-life sort of decision while planning?

     
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    pren79    10/17/09   SF Bay Area

    All the time. What I would do is talk to a 3rd person (1 = you, 2nd = fiance), or 4th person to figure out whether it's worth your time and effort. They probably have a good idea of how busy/stressful your life is and your budget too. Most of the times, my mind is probably already made-up and I just need to get a confirmation from additional people. Otherwise, they can also talk you out of something that you shouldn't be so caught up with. Everybody has different priorities and wedding planning is overwhelming so you must pick your battles.

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    I'm leaning toward taking the money! I think it's okay that the envelopes aren't as nice as you'd hoped...no one keeps envelopes. Also, can we see pictures? And how much money would you be saving by getting 50% off?

     

     
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    missomally    July 11, 2009   Missouri

    So sorry about this!  Is there any way you could possibly mount them on heavier stock paper?  Then you could use the extra money and buy thicker envelopes, cool stamps and a calligrapher to fancy them up a bit? 

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    Nice idea, missomally - if the fit btwn the invites and the envelopes isn't already tight, that is.  Good luck!  We'd have to see to be able to really help, though.

     
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    Miss Hot Sauce    3/13/2010   Cypress, TX

    I am with missomally. I was thinking maybe you could save the dough and spruce them up some other way. Maybe mount them on a pretty scrapbook paper or cardstock that you would be happier with?

     
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    dianalb83      

    i was going to suggest mounting them on a heavier cardstock as well!! plus using that extra money for a calligrapher would be a amazing, people love calligraphy and you can find really affordable ones on the wb classifieds and etsy!!

     
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    mambinki    October 17, 2009   Seattle, WA

    Can you post pics of them on here and we can help w/ suggestions?  I'm sure there are things you can do to make them look better and saving 50% on the invites is awesome.  I know you want your invites to be awesome, but really, most people just look at them and then chuck them in the pile of mail they have on the table in the corner of the room. 

     
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    nybride09    9/19/09   New York, NY

    if you'd agreed on specific cardstock and they gave you something flimsier, it sounds like they didn't carry out the job as agreed. could you use that to get them to reprint the invites but just keep the envelopes as they are.  most people don't keep envelopes but they might keep your invite.

     
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    laural    September 24, 2011   Louisiana

    I say save the money and spruce them up a bit. Or get a custom embosser and use it on the envelopes - I love embossers!

     
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    beagle    October 24, 2009  

    I think you should save the money and try to improve them on your own.  You could always mount them on more cardstock- that would make them less flimsy.  I would be scared that ordering them to reprint would give you the same quality and less time to fix it up.

     
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    Karma007    10/10/2009   Bay Area

    My envelopes were plain white, and looked super cheap. I ended up adding little blue flowersw/rhinestones to each one, and it helped a great deal.

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    I know this is going to hurt a little... we put so much money, effort & tears into our invites (mine are labor intensive so I cry alot lol), but for the most part-- people don't keep them or remember what the invites looked like.

    What is important is that you are happy with your invitations. I wouldn't get them reprinted because the quality will likely be the same & why give them more business for messing up the first invitations?

    I love the idea of doctoring your invites to your specifications. Once we know what they look like we'll all be able to give you better suggestions! Save the 50% and prettify them or take your money elsewhere :)

     
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    Lish    October 10th, 2009   Memphis, TN

    You guys are FANTASTIC.
    I was clueless and you guys got my brain working overtime!
    I'm thinking of adding chocolate brown cardstock to the back - not necessarily wide enough to leave a border but to just add an accent to it and to help pick up the ink color and give it some weight.
    I haven't thought of a way to make the postcards heavier, but if all else fails, I'll just buy some envelopes and make them slightly odd looking reply cards.
    Works for me.

    I'm uploading the picture of them - I don't care about whiting anything out - unless it's a rule.  Then let me know and I'll fix it. 
    I'm just learning to navigate this...

    It doesn't look bad in the picture (because it's an iPhone picture) and the picture of the invite through the envelope didn't turn out all that well, but it'll give you an idea of what I'm looking at... just imagine the card stock being thin enough to wave in the wind.

     
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    coralray24    09/26/2009   Tucson, AZ

    I would vote for saving the money, spruce them up a bit with a cardstock backing and then turn your paper love to the ceremony and reception (programs, place cards, signs...)

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    I would vote for the money!

    The thing about invites (and most things about your wedding) is that most people don't really care - I am not trying to be harsh but it's true - 90% of those invites are going to end up in 400 recycling/garbage bins!

     

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