Post # 1
Hello fellow brides. Before I vent, I appreciate you all. Your wisdom and advice drives me to be the best bride I will ever be! Now I need your help. Please hear me vent, accept my frustration and give me the best advice you would give yourself if in these exact circumstances.
We are getting married April 20 2013 so we have a year of planning to tackle. We succesffully booked our venue and ceremony site. When I first arrived on the location, it made my heart and soul feel this feeling of warmth and happiness. We initially wanted something different, something to accomodate our 110 guests and have a rustic feel to it( we are a fun, young couple and wanted a venue to match that perfectly)
So here is where the stress comes in.
At this location, we have to use one of their “preferred caterers” Of course we thought no big deal and they honestly had 8-9 cateres so we thought if one was overpriced, there were 8 more to choose from. After consulting 3 of the cateres, we were shocked to see that the estimate they all gave us was $4,500 and up. For those prices, we might as well went with a banquet hall or hotel. Shocked to say the least, yesterday we met our breaking point. What ever are we to do?We cant cut our guest list due to a strong connection with all of our guests. Are we to cancel with this venue we both fell in love with and now start the search all over again? Are we to force ourselves into a budget we both thnk is outrageous? I guess I just needed to vent,needed someone to talk to and why not to hundreds of brides who may have went through the same situation or know of someone who also went through the same thing. I appreciate any comments or even reading this long winded post. Today is a new day and I feel more determined than ever to do what would be best for the both of us.
Post # 3
A few of the venues we looked at required you to use one of their preferred vendors so I checked all of the pricing beforehand. I know that doesn’t help you now but, just letting you know what we did. At this point, I would just keep going through the list. Don’t panic until you have contacted them all and even after you have contacted them all make follow-up calls and ask if they have any cheaper packages. Just stay calm, be patient, and it will all work out.
Post # 4
Oh, and one quick question – what was included in the $4500 for 110 guests because honestly that sounds like it could be a very good deal?
Post # 5
My daughters wedding is approx 110 guests and our best priced caterer is 4,800 by the time you include bartender and gratuity. That seems inline with what we are paying. My advise is to get a quote for an outside caterer to see if they are comparable. If it’s around the same go back with your venue caterer with what you can afford and ask them to work within your budget. Some will try to find you lower priced options ours threw in a wedding cake. Things are sometimes negotiable. If not then maybe you could convince your venue and ceromony site to move your date out 6-8 months so that way you won’t lose your deposits and you can save a little more. If you do this make sure to ask caterer to put in writing that the price will be good for a year. it’s not all or nothing.
Post # 6
For that amount we were given set up and break down of the equipment/chairs and even any decoration we use. Also a full bar with tax. I know the compnay’s are not robbing us blind, it seems to be a standard fee across the board. Thanks for the insight ladies!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
Maybe price out what everything would cost individually and compare it to the all-in caterers’ price? Having all the decorations could be totally worth it, along with the bar!