Post # 1
My fiance and I have our first counseling session with our pastor tomorrow morning after the church service. We feel pretty comfortable with it except for a few things…. We live together and have intercourse. Should we be completely honest with the pastor or lie about both situations? We are worried they will deny us from getting married at that church and our date is only 3 months away!!
Post # 3
I think honesty is the best policy. Can you really get married in that church with a clear conscience if you lie?
Post # 4
Eeek thats a toughie! Obviously they won’t hunt you down to prove your address and what not should you want to choose not to disclose.
What denomination is the church? They may just ask you to refrain from intercourse and commit yourselves from that point on until your wedding. Your past is forgiven.
What’s your reason for wanting to be married in a Church? Is it just because most people get married in them, a family request/tradition etc?
Post # 5
Definitley be honest…..
It’s likely that he won’t ask directly…. many Pastors don’t really want to know that much. lol
Ours just brought it up but said more along the lines of: What ever ya’ll have done, if you have I’m going to ask that from now until the wedding that ya’ll refrain.
DH and I signed a purity agreement between ourselves (Pastor didn’t know) and that was that.
I can say though that stopping from having sex and giving that part of yourselves back to God in this time… really allows Him to work in great ways in your hearts individually AND together… (I’ve been on both sides of waiting & not)
Seriously one of the most amazing moments of my life was when DH and I left the Reception on the way to our honeymoon and we both almost cried talking & thinking about how God redeemed that part of us and worked so much out in us…. It was worth it by far and we’re both glad that we can look back and see that it was because of giving that to God that we had the breakthroughs that we had! So awesome!
Anyhoo… enjoy the process! 😉
Post # 6
It is a United Methodist church. It is a big deal to my fiance’s dad and my mom that we get married in a church. I was raised in a Methodist church.