Post # 1
When I was 20/21 I had a bit of wild steak and well, I liked to stay the night with a random guy once in a while (please no negative remarks, I learned my lesson). The last guy was this guy named Rick. Anyways, tonight was the first night of group counseling and Rick walked in. I couldn’t believe it. I immediately filled FI in. We also had to do introductions and when I said my name he turned around and stared me down like he couldn’t believe I was there. All of this happened like 5/6 years ago and I never thought I would see him again. I’m so nervous about going back. I know that if he says anything to me that I’m just going to tell him we need to act like we don’t know each other.
I know I shouldn’t let this get to me but it bothers me that now for the next 8 weeks, 1 night a week I have to be in the same room as him for 2 hours.
Post # 3
Ackward… I would just ignore him… no need to discuss the past… just forget about it… is there another group you could join? Good luck
Post # 4
oh that sucks – but it was a long time ago – not worth fretting over it unless hes like madly in love with you or something.
just go about your business and focus on your upcoming nuptials!
Post # 5
woah, awkward is right!
I think you handled the situation beautifully though – you were upfront with your FI, which is really important.
Also, unless the counseling is sexually related, I would think you don’t need to pretend not to know each other – just be vague about it. Don’t seek him out, and if he seeks you out, immediately introduce your FI (so he knows you’ve moved on in your lifestyle), and if anyone asks, just say you two were acquaintances in college.
Post # 6
We all have a past and if it really was just a one night thing then try to let it go. If it really makes you and/or your husband uncomfortable then I would ask to switch groups.
I’m not sure what kind of counseling this is, but obviously you are there for a reason. If all you are going to do is sit there and listen (because of this guy) you probably aren’t going to get out of it what you need. If thats the case then it might just be a waste of your time if you don’t switch to a group that you feel more comfortable sharing with.