First party Ex-Boyfriend will be at since break up? Etiquette?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Unless you’re going to go up to every single person at the party to say hello just to be polite then, no, it’s not rude. 

Post # 4
7633 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AussieSummer:  Oh I just looked in your history.  He broke up with you and has been a jerk about it…

Ignore him. If he says hello, say hello back and move on. Other than that, cold shoulder. Leave early if it gets uncomfortable, the couple will understand.

Post # 5
2062 posts
Buzzing bee

No, there really isn’t any reason to go up to him and say hello. If you can, treat him as you would any other guest at the party; if there’s no reason to talk to him, don’t talk to him. 

Post # 6
6751 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@paula1248:  +1

Definitely don’t go up to him and say hello. There’s no reason to.

Post # 7
7536 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’d avoid him like the plague.

Post # 8
1959 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@AussieSummer:  agree with the other bees! Say a polite hello, then stay away and ignore him. And hell yeah to the smokin hot dress! He deserves to see what a sexy woman he lost due to his stupidity.

Post # 9
317 posts
Helper bee

@AussieSummer:  Just avoid him! No need to make an issue of it. Good luck, I’m glad you’re wearing a hot dress!

Post # 11
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@AussieSummer:  also uhhhh am I the only one dying to see the dress?! lmao

Post # 12
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@ohhbitty:  I want to see!!


Also, I’d avoid him.

Post # 13
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@AussieSummer:  Don’t be the one to initiate contact. Avoid him if you can, without being obvious about it, but if he says hello just be polite and move on.

If he keeps pestering you to talk and/or deliberately follows you around, even after you’ve made it clear you’re not interested in talking then you have every right to tell him to leave you alone.

Post # 14
4425 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@AussieSummer:   Be too busy looking smokin’ hot to talk to him.   🙂  Oh, yes, and smile all the time.  Look VERY happy.  

Post # 15
3763 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Be civil if required, nothing more or less. Do not approach him.

Prepare yourself for if he brings a date too.

Post # 16
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012



I was also hoping for a picture of the dress!! lol

I don’t think you need to go out of your way to say hi. If you happen to walk around the corner and he is right there then it’s fine/polite to say hello. But don’t feel like you need to track him down or anything.  

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