Post # 1
I’m currently trying not to drown from all the DIY’s I have surrounding me. My office has little bits of everything happening. To my left I see my “Will you be my best man (etc)?” and in front of me all I see is my invitations which im doing from scratch.
Anywho! What I would really like is some suggestions, imagine you are being asked to be a bridesmaid in your best friends upcoming wedding, she hands you a tote bag …. what would you hope to see inside?(Apart from the note asking you to in fact be her bridesmaid, and to promise to look fab with no ugly crying.)
So far to include my bought and listed to buy, the contents would look like this:
Main matching tote bags
Cute file folder (Dress options, wedding info etc inside)
Clutch/Makeup bag (Earrings, necklace, watch, tissues inside)
Adorable pencil case (Pens, corrector etc inside)
But other than that I’m not too sure what to include. It’s a pretty big bag. Any ideas?
Post # 3
I think you’ve done enough! Stop reading bridal magazines that tell you you need to do all these crazy things!
Don’t stress youself out trying to live up to the magazines that tell you to spend crap tons of money on DIY projects.
Post # 4
All I am saying is dont waste all your ideas for asking her to be your BM, your going to want some of these ideas for presents for the wedding day.
Post # 5
@soontobemrsaustralia: I have to agree with the previous posters. You clearly are a very very generous friend, and I’m sure you just want to make it nice for your friends. But, I really don’t think it’s necessary.
I know some people do the “Will you be my bridemaid” cards or little boxes but I think you really need to stop at the bag and the file folder. The pencil case, and cluth idea sounds more like a wedding thank you gift. If you really want to include more, what about a few pics from fun memories you have together? Or a fun poem or little note about why they are important to you. Trust me….the bills will start rolling in big time as you get closer to the date!
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: haha I have yet to open one bridal magazine. I’m waiting to propose to my girls then all that kind of stuff will start. The idea came about in a way similar to back to school. When you make sure you get all the gear. I just want to make sure everyone has everything they will need.
@skipanther: Already got the gifts covered! haha I’m giving each girl a survial pack that will include the clutch, and jewerly for the day in new designer bags (still debating on who to go with), and gift cards to spa so they can unwind from all the stress i’ve brought upon them.
@papercrafter: lovely idea! and the bills are already brutal haha, I have almost everything planned and paid for now. I’m overally prepared.
Post # 7
I would rather have a card and maybe go to lunch…so much more personal.
Post # 8
I definitely agree. Save ideas and money for other things! I’ll be honest. When i asked my friends, I said “would you like to be in my wedding?” that was that. I don’t have a lot of money and they know I don’t and they don’t either. Bridal magazines think money is no object and get you to spend all this money on things you don’t need and no one expects you to have. I think this is where people get stressed out by doing what they think is expected rather than what they want.
Post # 9
That sounds so adorable!!
But for my MOH I called her, told her he proposed, and said “Oh yeah, your my MOH right?” 🙂 She doesn’t expect anything from me, I already asked her to be the main person by my side for the biggest day of my life!
For my other BM, also my FSIL, I’m just going to ask her if she’ll share the day with me, I don’t want to make a production of something thats so deeply personal to me 🙂
She’ll love what you’ve done already!
Post # 10
I just sent my bridesmaids an email. Which i guess was super-impersonal, but they all said yes anyway. 🙂
Post # 11
I didn’t do “will you be my bm” gifts. I just asked them. I have to agree with pp’s save the gift buying for thank you gifts and save your money for extra expenses.
Post # 12
Lord, youve done far more than me! 🙁