Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - Castle Farms, Charlevoix, MI
I just found out I’m pregnant! I’m very early, so early my Hcg level is 50, and going up. No one knows my husband and I were even thinking about trying.
I know incidence of miscarriages are higher prior to 12 weeks, so I don’t want to get too excited, but it’s hard not to.
I also want to tell people, but not this early. If you have found out you’re expecting just days after implantation, do you tell anyone? If so, who?
Post # 2
We did IVF for genetic reasons so our parents knew we were trying. We told them the day we got the BFP from the blood test along with each of our best friends. We then told siblings a few weeks later because I wanted to tell them at Thanksgiving. They all knew and understood it was early. I personally waited until 13 weeks to go “public” on FB and Twitter.
Post # 4
brittanybed: Yippie Girly! Congrats!
You are right that chemical pregnancies and misscarriage rates are pretty high early on, I probably woudln’t tell anyone at least until your Dr confirms with a blood test which you could technically call and make an apt now. They usually don’t want to see you until 6 weeks here, but it could be different where you are. Congrats though! Yippie!
Post # 5
I told those whose support I would need if we miscarried.
Post # 6
Congrats on the pregnancy!! When I first found out I was pregnant I was about 4 weeks along, and I freaked out too. I was like wait we weren’t actually trying; we obviously weren’t doing anything to prevent it from happening either. I then cried found the first person I could find (which happened to be my brother) and said I’m having a baby with tears running down my face. I then calmed down a little and called my DH who sat quietly on the phone when I told him, shocked as well. I’m a total mommies girl so I then called my mom because I needed to talk to my mom and honestly it wasn’t until I talked to her that it all really sank in. I freaked out about miscarriages all the time (I’m 13 weeks now and still worry a bit) but honestly just enjoy every minute of this. Try your hardest not to think about it and yes get excited, even this early!!
Post # 7
I told my parents pretty quickly. Then best friends a week later and DH’s parents and siblings.
Congrats! It’s an exciting time!
Post # 8
brittanybed: First off, congratulations!! I know how you feel, both my husband and I were “cautiously optimistic.” We both know how common miscarriages are, and didn’t want to get super excited too early. I didn’t test until my period was a couple days late, but I told my mom that same day (after my husband, of course!) but waited until almost 10 weeks (Christmas) to tell my dad and my in-laws. If it hadn’t been Christmas, I would’ve waited until we heard the heartbeat at 11.5 weeks. I was also very nervous about having a miscarriage and having to tell lots of people that had been so happy for us that I wasn’t pregnant anymore. When we told our families, it was “well, it’s still early so don’t get TOO excited, and we’re only telling you because you’re family and don’t tell anyone else!” In contrast, it was awesome to tell everyone else at 13 weeks and just say, “guess what!?!? we’re having a baby!!!!” It’s really up to you and your husband. Good luck to you!
Post # 9
brittanybed: I just found out I am pregnant today too!! Congratulations! We struggled with infertility (MFI issues) so we had been keeping everyone updated as things went along, when we found out I am pregnant we wanted to tell our parents right away and we each told our best friends. It is DH’s mom’s birthday today so she really appreciated the “present”. Basically as DH put it, if (god forbid) anything happens, I would want to tell them about it anyway, so why not get a little excited now.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
My cousin (she’s like my best friend) was the first person we told. She was the first and pretty much only person to know about the last pregnancy which we miscarried. Since then we’ve told a few other people though.
For this pregnancy, my husband told his best friend at about 5 weeks, and we told our parents at 8 weeks along with a few friends and my fitness trainers. The last of our good friends will find out tomorrow (which is totally awesome because they just announced their pregnancy to us two weeks ago! We’re due a month apart exactly) and then we will make a fb announcement after my n/t scan which is at 13w4d because I need an ultrasound picture for my little set-up, lol.
Post # 11
brittanybed: I found out SUPER early…actually the day of my missed period was when I had my blood test, which showed I was barely a few weeks along. We did end up telling parents and siblings, but that was it. I did tell my bestie at 11 weeks, but we were pretty sure he was still there. After 12 weeks we told everyone. It’s super exciting, and I don’t regrte doing this the first time around, but knowing what I know now (being the first grandchild and all), the next time we will be keeping it hush-hush from everyone as long as possible. I feel like my pregnancy has been going on forever because we told our parents so early.
By the way, congrats! (My manners escaped me for a moment, hehe).
Post # 12
This time, I found out around 3w4d that I was pregnant. So that is VERY early. I told my mom and in-laws around 4-5 weeks I think.
I figured that if something happened, I would want them to know anyways.
I’m 11w4d today and still worried..I don’t think that ever goes away! Something that helped me along the way was this chart though:
Congrats and a happy, healthy, wonderful pregnancy to you!
Post # 13
Congrats!!! I hear you on being really scared. We found out at just under 4 weeks and boyyy was I a nervous wreck until 8 weeks when we saw the heartbeat, then continued to be nervous until 13 or so weeks and 3 ultrasounds!
I told my sisters right away because we’re super close and they knew we were trying. I told my best girlfriend at right around 6 weeks, and then we chose to tell my husband’s family at Christmas which was also 6 weeks. Anyone we told early were also those we would want supporting us if something went wrong.
I know it’s a really scary time, but try to stay positive and keep your stress levels low. And whatever you do, don’t spend time researching miscarriage statistics!!
Happy and healthy 9 months!
Post # 14
I just told my husband, and then no one else until 12 weeks. At first we thought we’d never be able to make it without telling people, but after a while it became fun, our little secret that we got to share together. We have kept that up throughout the pregnancy, not telling people the gender right away (we made them wait for us to send u/s DVDs), and we’re not telling people the name until our baby is born. Congrats!
Post # 15
urchin: That chart is a little scary in the beginning but it is very helpful, everyday gets a little less and less. Makes me feel a bit better, now to try and make it to 6 weeks!