Post # 1
I’ve replied to other postings before, but don’t think I’ve ever started a thread of my own. On a whim I decided to maybe post and introduce myself.
I am not officially engaged. Well, I could be secretly engaged, but if that were the case I couldn’t tell because it would be a secret. 😉 (hint hint).
It’s been just over a year since my love first asked me to marry him. He hasn’t officially proposed–he said there has to be a ring for that. He’s even asked someone to be his best man, and within the past month or two told him to start brushing up on best man duties.
We had a timeline worked out, but he had some unexpected career issues come up that pushed things back a bit. Right now it’s supposed to happen by January 1st. There is a slight chance it will be delayed again due to career/financial things, but he has said if that is the case her will at least go ahead and ask my parents’ permission.
It’s a long distance relationship….I’m on the east coast, he’s on the west. I will probably be moving in January or February. It’s been tough finding a job out here, but I know the right one will come along soon enough.
So….it might happen sometime this month. If it doesn’t, I’ve told him he has to buy me some of that cute “bride to be” stuff to help make the waiting easier. He said he could definitely do that.
Post # 3
Welcome to the hive!!! That’s awesome that you know a round about time line and that he’s so excited and is asking friends, etc to be in the bridal party.. I wish I knew these things.. lol … c’est la vie I suppose!!! Have you gone ring shopping together?
Post # 4
wow, he’s willing to buy you bride to be stuff? mine won’t go near it. he says he doesn’t want to make me more antsy. lol. it’s comments like that that make me really want to catch the bouquet at every wedding i attend. just to freak him out. i’m the best gf ever. hahahaha.
it’s awesome you have a timeline. that makes waiting just a tad be easier. and i understand trying to find a job; my guy is attempting the same thing [he’s in the midwest looking for work out my way on the west coast]. but here’s hoping you both find something soon!
Post # 5
Nice to meet you! It’s funny because I think that having a specific date would be a good and bad thing. It’s kind of like waiting for Christmas when you are a kid; it just seems like it takes forever to get to your special day.
That being said, it sounds like he is totally willing and ready to make a commitment, which is great. You are a lucky girl!
Post # 6
Welcome! I hope you like it here!
Post # 9
Welcome and congrats on your upcoming engagement!
Post # 10
Welcome! So glad you’re here!
Post # 11
Welcome bananagirl! So excited you’ve found the man you want to marry! Congratulations! Please post details when it “officially” happens?
Post # 12
Thanks for such a warm welcome!
It’s funny that I just posted last night, because this morning the subject came up and apparently it might not be exactly by Jan 1st because he doesn’t want to rush his process. He has some proposal plan worked out, and said of course he’s starting the process now that he knows he’s getting his next paycheck next week (he’s a writer). Of course he could be teasing me about the timeline to throw me off, but knowing he will at least ask my folks by the 1st means a lot.
Even though he’s been asking me for a year, it wasn’t until the last couple of months that he decided he wanted it to happen as soon as possible. I guess before it was a matter of “you are the one I want to spend the rest of my life with”, and now it’s “soon please”.
It’s been tough at times knowing that he wanted to marry me but not knowing when, and knowing the ‘when’ depended so much on his career.
I feel like maybe I’m bragging about my short wait, and I feel bad when I know there’s so many here who have no idea how long their wait will be. But then I remind myself that I kinda actually have been waiting 15 years…
We met when I was 13 and he was 16. I had a huge crush on him, but he seemed totally uninterested. He went off to college and as far as I knew had vanished into thin air. But then March 2008 he found me on Myspace. I asked if he wanted to get coffee and catch up. Coffee lasted about 6 hours and 45 minutes! I wasn’t sure if it was a date or not till halfway through our 2nd date when he kissed me. It turns out that he actually liked me back when we first knew each other, but did nothing about it because of the age difference!
Post # 13
@bananagirl: what a great story!! Reminds me of how M and I met, I say that if you have been waiting all year then you shouldn’t feel bad!! it’s so cute that he has this huge surprise for you! i cannot wait to see how he does it!!
Post # 14
I just got back from visiting him in California and we got our first Christmas tree together. It’s very small, but perfect for his tiny apartment.
I really hope it happens when he’s home for the holidays. But I think he feels the holidays will be pretty rushed and also I know he wants it to be a surprise. He has planned how he wants to do it and all he will tell me is that he wants it to happen during the winter time.
Post # 15
Welcome to the hive! I hope it comes soon since you are moving across the country for the boy!