Post # 1
So lets start off by saying I thought I would be the only person in the world that was going to have any problems with RSVP’s (dumb I know). So my uncle and his girlfriend who I really don’t see or get along with (they are not my type of people is the nice way of putting it). I didnt want to invite them but since my mom only has 2 brothers I kinda have too. I really would have rather not invited them then this whole situation wouldnt be happening.
You see my uncles girlfriend is morbidly obese, now I have no problem with plus size people most of my family and my FI’s family are plus size. But her lifestyle just irks me she doesn’t work and all she does all day is play on the computer, drinks way way way too much pop and eats all the crappy food. Now she is in a motorized wheelchair because she can’t get around anymore, which is fine. But she now got a little stupid dog and calls it a service dog, really you cant put a vest on a dog and call it one, but they do! The last time I was out with the family they brought the dog to the resturant and let it run around it was tripping the waitress’s and running up to other tables. If it was a service dog it would have stayed put and done what it was suppose to do and service her which it was not.
So to the actual point of this, I get the RSVP yesterday from them (my FI opened it first). They decided to do the normal we both are coming and then add with one wheelchair and a service dog!!!! Now I’m fine with the wheelchair (ended up realizing they wont be able to come to the ceremony because its in a hertiage building and its not wheelchair accessiable). But its the damn dog that bothers me, I’d be fine if it was an actual service dog and actually did something, but its just a dog a annoying one at that and I really don’t want it at my wedding running around its gross!!! So I made my mom email them and tell them they better call the hotel and see if they allow animals in, which is the nicest way of saying we don’t want your dumb dog at the wedding! Don’t get me wrong I love dogs I love all animals just not at a wedding.
So I’m just going to clarifiy that I don’t hate plus size people! And I don’t hate animals! And there’s no real reason for this post just that I needed to vent on how fustrating some people can be!
Post # 3
@mrskrumpet: Just tell her that the venue doesn’t allow dogs. It doesn’t sound like a service dog at all, so if she claims it, you can tell her that the rules are the rules and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Post # 4
Call her and tell her unless she has legit medical documentation for the venue because liability issues they don’t allow animals in the building. I also think the most venues wouldn’t want a dog running around anyways so you can double check.
Post # 5
@TwoCityBride: I agree. You should be able to say that the venue requires documentation for service dogs. Then, if she produces documentation you might have to let the dog come, if she isn’t able to, then you could say it’s the venue’s rules. And you might want to check with the venue as well on their policy.
Post # 6
I would also mention that the hotel has strict sanitary rules w/ serving food and an animal (not service-certified) is a violation of those guidelines-
I’d be just as frustrated as you!
Post # 7
Thank you, it just really fustrates me that people would claim to have a service dog when its really not. I just don’t want any family drama right now.
Post # 8
I would call said uncle myself and give him what for. It’s NOT acceptable to bring your dog! Tell him it’s rude, and if he comes with the dog you will have someone escort them out. If he continues to fuss tell him it’s not allowed at any of your venues.
If someone was that stupid to me, polite dani would come to an end and they would see angry dani!!!
Post # 9
Ugh, that’s just freaking offensive and insensitive to people who actually receive aid from actual service dogs.
Post # 10
On top of that, tell them that they need documented proof that the dog is up-to-date with all vaccinations, too. Dog owners slip up all the time on these.
OR you could say something along the lines of, “the venue requires service dogs to have a full-veterinary checkup no longer than seven days before the event.” Oh, and tell them that all of this paperwork needs to be notarized. Make it as big a hassle for them as possible.
Post # 11
@mrskrumpet: Tell her no, you don’t want a dog at your wedding.
And, yes any dog can get a “service dog” tag. My brother bought one for my dog as a joke for Christmas…he ordered a little tag with my dogs picture and name on it that said he was a service dog. We don’t use it by the way, it was just a funny gift.
Post # 13
I didn’t read all the comments, so this may have been said. Also I don’t know what the laws in Canada are. Anyway, you may want to tell them that they have to show proof of service animal registration. Request that they do this x number of days in advance to save themselves the embarrassment of not being allowed in the venue.
Post # 14
Agree that you should ask for documentation for the dog as without it, it can’t come (as long as you’re certain she can’t produce any!) Also….what does this dog actually do for her?!! Genuinely curious!
Post # 15
@Ksmurf: Service dogs are allowed pretty much everywhere, as long as they are “equiped” with the service dog stuff. Like the proper tag and the harness and the owner has the proof and requirements.
If one of my guests have a legit reason, like blind, sezures, or any other problem that requires one. I would be ok with it. These dogs are beside the owner at all time and extremely well behaved.
This might help http://www.crtasa.com/legislation.php
Post # 16
The documentation is actually a really good idea, I’m gonna tell my mom to call them and tell them that 🙂
@ticatica: and the dog does absolutely nothing other then companionship, and cleans up after her when she drops food (haha sorry). But really the dog does nothing and she doesnt need a service dog, being over weight does not mean you need a service dog.