First time at parent's home after childhood dog passed away… this sucks.

posted 3 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Helper bee

@SarahTee:  Oh bee… I completely empathize with you. We had to put our family dog down and she was 18 years old. Everytime I go to my parents house I miss her something fierce! Sometimes I still cry for no reason! Seriously make sure your FI stays with you the next 2 nights and make him squeeze you tight!

Cheer up Bee!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

:-/ I wish I had something to say to make it better. We recently had to put down our family dog. I can tell you though.. It’ll hurt less and less every day. 

It seems like she was waiting to see you one last time though. So think about how special that time was! That you got to spend it with her!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@SarahTee:  I’m so sorry. I don’t think a true doggie parent ever gets over the loss of her best friend, no matter how many years have passed or how many other wonderful animals have walked into her life. I still miss every single animal and cry of every one that left their little paw print on my heart. I can remember all the name of every cat and dog we’ve ever had and what was special about each one of them.

It’s hard and something sometime down the road will remind you of your dog again, and that is ok. It’s a great way to remember her <3

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

I can completely empathize with you. We had to put our dog, Sugar, to sleep a couple of years ago. She was 16 and a half and I don’t remember life without her. I was a really shy and emotional kid and I remember clinging onto her and crying when girls at school were mean to me or when I felt lonely. She was my best friend. I was 20 at the time and it was so incredibly hard. It felt like something really important was missing from our house for a long time. It’s been a little over two years and I still cry for her sometimes and I still miss her. It hurts less everyday and now we can talk about how awesome she was without crying (it took my family a while to get to that point – it was one of the only times I’ve ever seen my dad cry).

 

I’m so sorry for your loss. I know there’s nothing I can say to make it better and I really wish there was, because I’ve been there a few times now and I would never wish this pain on anyone.

 

Rest in Paradise, Amber.

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@SarahTee:  I’m so sorry!

My mom texted me as I pulled in the parking lot at work one morning to tell me that life had just gotten to be too much for the family dog the night before.  She had been going downhill for a while, so I expected it, but not right then.  I had to sit there and cry and get myself together before walking into work.

It’s weird going home and her not being there, but they still have my mom’s little BFF that she adopted a couple years ago, and she brings life to the house. 

I promise it’ll get better, it just takes time. All the good years is worth the sucky sad part.  In time you’ll only cry when you’re alone and think real hard about her, and be able to tell the good stories about her goofy antics (I have a Golden now, so I know!) and laugh with your family and friends. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m so sorry. I literally have tears in my eyes right now because I went through the exact same thing. 

The black Lab I had growing up, Sheba, was just an amazing dog. She was a rescue we got when she was ~6mo and I was 8. She was so intelligent, friendly, patient, and well behaved. She died when I was in grad school, thankfully I was home at the time because it was 4th of July weekend. Annnnnd now I’m legit crying at work. 

Anyways, the grief affected me so much that I started shedding clumps of hair. When I came home again for the first time it really was a punch in the gut not to have her there at the door greeting me, just as you described. I don’t really know what to tell you besides the fact that all dogs go to heaven, because I know how devastating it is.

While I don’t have a dog of my own yet (soon, soon) my parents did get a puppy the next summer. She has also grown into a wonderful dog and has absolutely lived up to the standard set by Sheba. 

Here is Gracie, hopefully her goofy seating posture will cheer you up a little: 

I’m so sorry you have to go through this, it’s the worst thing about having pets. You just have to focus on the fact that she is in a better place and I know she would want you to be happy for the time you had together. 

Damn it, why did I wear non-waterproof mascara today?

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