Post # 1
I think, I need some thoughts on your dress shopping experience. Today I went for the first time and it felt really really awkward. It didn’t start off very well since the shop assistant was like 15 to 20 mins late for my appointment. When she eventually got there, it was alright. She asked me about what I envisioned, what I was wearing normally and stuff like that. I think, she did grasp what I was after. Unfortunately, she didn’t show me my “dream dress” that I’ve been looking at online for the past 15 months (San Patrick “Cobalto”). She brought some dresses, which had lovely lace patterns. But the first dress I tried on, I drowned in it. It was huge, heavy and I felt dragged down to the floor. So it definitely was a no-no. We went on and on and we eventually managed to agree that I would need something figure-hugging, very tight around the waist and hips. So then she brought a dress with very pretty lace (when worn, on the hanger it looked like “granny-lace”). I just about managed to squeeze in and it was lovely, it just wasn’t “it”. So then the last she brought was a Pronovias 2014 collection dress called Levada. It was so different, yet really “me”. I think (and my friend who came along thought so too) that it was the best dress I tried on that day. It looked really good, and I could walk in it (the other ones were hard to walk in). So I tried picturing me in the dress at the wedding day (with my prospective location in my mind), and thought that it could work quite well. Nevertheless, I didn’t have the “wow-wow-wow-effect”. The shop assistant said, everyone has it, if I have to think about it too long, then it wasn’t my dress. However, I’ve been reading up on the ‘bee that it isn’t as common to have that “wow” moment. Actually, during the whole appointment, I felt awkward, like I was dressing up, playing “bride”. Has anybody else encountered that feeling during a bridal appointment? I don’t know if it was partly because I was in the limelight, which I usually feel very uncomfortable in. Also, another question to those wearing (or who tried on) lace dresses. Did you think that lace really rubs your skin and actually feels very uncomfortable? The last dress was OK – not extremely comfortable, but a lot less hurting my skin.
Thanks for reading through this post..it would help to get some insight from more experienced bees on here!
Here is the picture of the last dress I tried. I couldn’t take pictures of me in it – the shops over here seem to allow pictures only after you decided on a dress.
Post # 3
That’s a very pretty dress.
I loved my wedding dress (still do, and 3 years later would choose it again) yet I never had that teary-eyed “this is IT; I feel like a BRIDE” moment you read about on blogs.
That said, you’ve only been to one store. Visit another shop or two, and try on a variety of fabrics and silhouettes – even if you think you will hate them, you may surprise yourself, and even if you do hate them you’ll be more confident in whatever dress you end up choosing if you can avoid that “what else is out there?” feeling.
Post # 4
I never had “that” feeling. I just liked my dress the best out of the ones I tried on in my price range. That dress is beautiful.
Post # 5
@Aprilsfool: for record, i didn’t have ‘that’ moment. i tried on maybe 12 dresses total, my dress was the second dress i tried on. i narrowed it down to two, and chose mine because it was much more me, much more comfortable, and cheaper by $400. i love by dress, truly, but i didn’t have a visceral reaction to it. it was just a really important shopping trip.
don’t feel like you have to have THAT moment. that shop assistant didnt know what she was talking about.
Post # 6
@Aprilsfool: I think it’s pretty common to feel a little out-of-body during your first bridal appointment. I only had to go to 2 bridal shops and I never had that THIS IS IT feeling. My mom and MOH had it for me. I didn’t truly feel like a real bride until I tried a veil on with the dress. It’s perfectly normal, don’t fret and follow your heart.
Post # 7
It took me five or six dresses before it really sunk in that I am the one who is going to be wearing the white dress. After that I relaxed into it a bit and it was much easier to focus on the dresses and figure what I liked and what I didn’t.
The one thing that I knew I wanted in my dress was lace, so I tried on lots of lace dresses. I had one dress with a beaded lace illusion back on for about 20 minutes while my consultant looked for another dress I had asked to try on. By the time I got the dress off my back and shoulders were absolutely chaffed and the redness didn’t go down until the next day. It was very uncomfortable. After that dress I decided I was ok with sequins, but really prefered unadorned lace. This is the dress I picked, and the lace is very soft and comfortable.
Post # 8
I was fortunate enough to find my dress at the one and only bridal shop I went to and I went with the first dress that I tried on. I tried about 7 dresses total just to compare. I did have a “wow” moment with my first dress but what made me even happier was that my bridesmaids all felt the same about that dress and had that “wow” moment as well. My dress has lace over satin and I didn’t think it was uncomfortable at all. Like you, I don’t like being in the limelight either. I’m only 5’1″ so it was kind of awkward trying on sample dresses that are made for women that are 5’10” but my consultant was very helpful in clipping me and made me feel comfy. I also like how she was very patient with me. I guess it depends on where you go and which consultant you get. I say just go to a few different shops and you will learn to be more comfortable and I’m sure you’ll find your dream dress. 🙂
Post # 9
I went dress shopping probably 4 or 5 times. I was convinced I would not have the ‘wow’ moment. That really wasn’t me. And each time I went out, I’d find a nice dress that was top choice and there was one that I knew could be my backup. But then I went to an appointment and tried on the dress I ended up getting. I remember trying it on and thinking ‘well this could be it’ and the more I stood in it and looked in the mirror, the more I liked it and gradually I came to the conclusion that it was the one! I think TV makes you think you and the whole store has to cry and freak out (which is fine if you did/do!) but its not required. It can be more subtle or just that you really like the dress!
Post # 10
I never had a “wow” moment. At all. And I love my dress…but at the end of the day it’s just a dress…sooo….
Post # 11
I was super excited to be trying on dresses and went through a few. I didnt find my dress til I saw another bee on here wearing it and fell in love. She told me the designer and the dress name and I quickly called around to see who had it. I wish I would have had my mom with me the first time I tried it on cuz I had a every excited feeling the first 2 times I put it on and knew it was me. I didnt cry or anything that emotional but I knew it was what I saw myself in for my wedding. Now that the wedding is 2 months away and the few other times I tried it on its more reality that OMG I will be wearing this dress in front of all these people, and I pray my FI will love it as much as I do. I do agree that you will know when it is the right dress, its not tears as much as a feeling of yup this is the one. Just have fun with it and relax. Youll know 🙂
FYI my consult liteally called me fat in my dress during my consultaion (so not joking was upset for days after) and kept asking if I was ready to get out of the dress within the first minute of having it on. The owner ended up taking over the consultaion and I no longer deal with the other girl. Some counsultants are just not the best, dont let them get to you
Post # 12
@Aprilsfool: Yep, I felt very..detached? during pretty much all of my dress shopping appointments. It probably didn’t help that I started with mostly sample and consignment sales, so there was very much a feeling of, “well, these are your choices, take ’em or leave ’em”. I’m also quite critical of myself and of anything that seems too fussy, so after a few dresses I was practically clinical in my judgements! That said, I did end up finding a dress that fits my shape/personality and the ‘tone’ of my wedding beautifullly, so there’s hope for you yet 😉
Post # 13
Unless you knew and were prepared for it — those dresses are monstrous! Heavy, itchy, tight, scratchy, who expected to be “clipped” into something to make it fit? Ugh! That first try-on shopping experience is a mess. And I would be a total self-conscious wreck for the experience.
Second time’s a charm – I bet! Best wishes.
Post # 14
@Aprilsfool: DISCLAIMER: I haven’t tried on dresses yet! So I may be just taling out of my ass here:
BUT I don’t buy into the whole teary eyed “I feel like a bride” thing.I don’t believe that I will put on a fancy article of clothing and then magically this transforation happens and I change into something else. I wasn’t one of those girls who grew up thinking about my wedding either, it only dawned on me once I came to the earth-shattering conclusion that I was likely going to mary my lovely Mr. Pambi one day and I might want to think of how I want things to go.
I feel like I will try on a number of dresses, some of them will make me took hotter than others, and then I will likely choose the one that is within my budget, makes me feel the hottest, is the least uncomfortable,and is most going to fit my Beachy wedding in Belize.
Post # 15
@sailor: @ILoveMyKorat: @TwoStatesBride: @springbride23: @Eckle: @pollychai: @bridgetdarling: @StL.Ashley: @FutureArmyWife12: @loveandapitbull: @nambi_pambi:
Thank you girls, you ROCK! You definitely made me feel better!
@Zavrazen: you absolutely hit it spot on! itchy, scratchy and heavy (the first dress felt like 20kg added to my belly). For some reason only 1 dress was VERY tight and to my surprise they put me in a size 34 whereas I normally wear 36/38. Always thought, wedding dresses are way smaller than normal clothes. Well, that was a thing that made me feel good about myself today!
I got another appointment in a different store booked for the end of August. They got a selection of about 2000 different dresses. So maybe, I’ll find “the” gown down there. I guess, I will be better prepared than this time. Also I will have my gran with me then, so I get some family input as well. Thanks again girls, your support means a lot to me!
Post # 16
I didn’t have that teary-eyed feeling, either, don’t worry! I actually teared up the first time I went dress shopping because the consultant asked me to picture myself walking down the aisle. With the dress I did buy, I did say “wow!” when I walked out, but I think that I was afraid to commit so I didn’t get that “let’s stop shopping” feeling. Every dress I tried on after just couldn’t compare, so I made the rational choice to stop shopping and commit. It’s different for everyone!
Also, as to the lace, the dress I bought had a lace overlay, so the lace doesn’t touch my skin. That might be a good option for you, too!