Post # 1
I’m going dress shopping for the first time this weekend.. and then have a few other appointments next week! I’m excited!! but also I feel really nervous about it. Did anybody else feel like this the first time they went?
When I wasn’t engaged bridal shops always kinda made me feel like that.. like they definitely aren’t a place that you can just waltz into and browse and feel comfortable. You need an appointment, you need to be getting married (generally) and you need to take it quite seriously or the ladies will look down at you. I probably feel nervous because I still can’t believe I’m actually getting married!!! Even though it’s been a few months haha.
So nervous!! I’ve heard that the ladies that own the stores I’m going to are SUPER nice though, so I’m sure once I get there I’ll be fine!
Post # 3
@beeberry: yes, I was nervous. Its a mix of emotions, you are thinking omg I am getting married. Omg, will I look ok? WIll I find something?
Its very exciting!!!! congrats! have fun!
Post # 4
@beeberry: I was totally freaked out. Completely. And truth be told, the first store I went to was actually pretty stressful. I’m glad you are going to places you have heard good reviews about.
One thing I will tell you from my experience is make sure you eat beforehand – I went straight from work and I was starving and after about the fourth dress I got lightheaded. Don’t let it happen to you 🙂 Also bring water. Getting in and out of dresses can feel like a bit of a workout, and if they have you in a corset you will feel a little constrained as it is.
But most of all try to have fun with it! Keep an open mind, try lots of different styles, and let the consultants pick out dresses for you – that’s how I eventually found mine.
Post # 5
@VanillaCoke: I will definitely remember to eat something before! I’m one of those people that gets really cranky if I haven’t had something to eat for a while so that’s a good thing to remember. Also something to think about on the wedding day hey?!
What was stressful about your first appointment? Maybe if I tell them it’s my first appointment they’ll be easy on me!
Post # 6
@beeberry: I was super nervous too. It was a similar feeling to when I go in jewelry stores. I feel like they’re all looking down their noses at me. I don’t usually feel like that anywhere else, just wedding related fancy places, I guess. I went to David’s Bridal for my first try, to ease into it, knowing that they’re not as fancy, plus, I had a specific budget. It’s never as bad as we anticipate it to be though – you may even have fun! I will echo @VanillaCoke: – eat something. I didn’t (thinking, I shouldn’t be bloated!) and I felt icky and irritated because I was hungry. Also, she makes another good point – try on a ton of styles. What you think you want might be totally different from what you end up loving once you’re wearing it!
Post # 7
@BisBeanBrien: I totally feel like that in jewelry stores too. so annoying!
thanks, I’m sure it will be fun!
Post # 8
I was nervous too! But I don’t think you need to take it so seriously. I’ve been shopping for a while now, and I honestly spend most of my appointments joking around and the sales people don’t seem to mind.
My only suggestion is to go into your first appointment with the assumption that you’re just getting an idea of what shapes will look good on you, not that you’re trying to find THE dress. You may anyway, but I feel like most people don’t have the “say yes to the dress” experience where they try on 3 dresses and the third one is it. For me I got really disheartened when there wasn’t anything I liked in the first store I tried, because it made me think there wouldn’t be in ANY store. But I’ve had a lot more luck since then! I think I would have enjoyed those appointments more if I hadn’t felt any pressure to find something I liked.
Post # 9
@BisBeanBrien: Yes, that was exactly my thought – I didn’t want to be bloated or puffy so I had a tiny salad for lunch and that was it… by the second dress I was ready to cut someone 🙂
Part of what was stressful for me was what thunderberry said – I felt like I was going to go in there, try the three dresses I picked out from the website (I was at David’s), fall in love with one of them and be done. They didn’t end up having one or two that I wanted to try, and then the consultant was not the greatest – she was totally distracted by another appointment and didn’t help me put the dresses on – and since it was my first appt, I had no idea how to put the dresses on myself, so I was struggling in the fitting room for a while, feeling hot and cranky and wearing a giant puffy slip. It was not fun! I met my fiance afterward for dinner (we split a huge pizza to make up for me being cranky and hungry) and I was so disheartened that he actually asked me if i still wanted to marry him (he was kidding, but only by half).
Anyway, I do not mean to freak you out! But I think if I had more realistic expectations (and a relatively full stomach and some water) I would not have been as upset. So, if you go into it NOT thinking you will find your dress in the first store, but just that you are getting ideas and getting used to seeing yourself in a wedding dress, then you will have fun, I promise! By the second or third store, I was much more at ease and less self-conscious, and now that I have my dress I am having fun thinking about accessories, etc, and I might actually willingly go back to a bridal shop to look for them, which I would not have thought a month ago 🙂
Post # 10
@beeberry: Dress shopping was the thing I was ooking forward to the least- and it DID turn out to be a bit of a fiasco. But the end result is a dress I love.
Post # 11
@beeberry: I was super nervous too! Especially since I’m not where I want to be fitness-wise. But the ladies were SO nice, I felt beautiful in the dresses and it was so much fun! Enjoy yourself 🙂
Post # 12
If you go to more upscale salons, the consultants do all the work for you! Unzipping the dress or untying the corset. They will help you get into the dress too. Relax! This is supposed to be fun. I’ve had wonderful experiences shopping for my wedding dress. Be prepared to tell them what styles you like but also be open to what they suggest, you never know which one will be the one! And don’t feel pressured to buy right then and there. Go home, sleep on it. Research. Go to other stores. Be certain it’s your dress 🙂 good luck.
Post # 13
thanks guys! I’m totally not expecting to find anything right away. I’m one of those people that actually likes shopping by myself.. so I feel like these up coming appointments are more for the experience of shopping with my mom and my besties! I’m kind of expecting to go with them for these appointments then hopefully I’ll be comfortable enough to go back on my own another time! 🙂
Post # 14
Super nervous. And even though I have my dress now.. I’m still fretting over the alterations.
Post # 15
I was super nervous and not ready to go dress shopping the first time.
My mom talked me into going to David’s Bridal only a few weeks after getting engaged. Part of me was curious but the other part knew I just wasn’t ready for it. I had no clue what I wanted, knew NOTHING about the wedding details yet, didn’t feel comfortable at the weight that I was. It was a Saturday also so it was a complete zoo!
Off we went and it was as I expected. Overwhelming and not super positive. However, it felt nice to sort of dip my toe in the bridal waters. It helped open me up to the experience and a few weeks later I ended up at another bridal store and fell in LOVE with two dresses.
Just try to enjoy the process…because it is a process and don’t freak out if you don’t love some of the dresses you try on…EVERYONE finds a dress eventually so there is no need to feel any pressure throughout the looking.
Once you put the first one on you will feel like a pro and be ready to do it again and again. 🙂
Post # 16
I went, and it was fun! All of the sales associates I dealt with were very friendly and I didn’t feel pressured or anything. Found a couple I love now I just have to think about them! 🙂