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First time, feeling anxious!

posted 8 months ago in Dress
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    GonnaBEE_MrsAcree    October 6, 2012   Michigan

    Hi ladies!!

    So.... I've put it off long enough, it's time to go try on wedding dresses for the first time (well second).  I was engaged once before and tried on dresses once with my mom on a whim years ago, no appointment... just a spontaneous walk-in.  CLEARLY I wasn't really feeling it that time, as the relationship eventually ended.  THIS time, it's the real deal and I'm so anxious!  Anxious for many reasons:

    • Will I be able to find a dress within my budget?  $600 or less
    • Will I feel comfortable?  Not typically a dress gal
    • Will I walk away feelin rejected & self-consious about my body?  I hate my arms and sleeves don't always leave the 80's behind

    I made an appointment for noon on Sunday... and I'm trying to keep an open, positive mind!  My mom is coming with me... she asked if I want to invite my FMIL along.  I don't know!!  Part of me thinks, yes make it special, I'm sure she'd love to be there.  The other part of me thinks... keep it low key as to reduce the added pressure brought by a "crowd".  

    ANY ADVICE??? :)

     

     
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    Jamcnair    October 20, 2012   Morristown, Tennessee

    I would say it depends on your FMIL and your relationship with her. Will she be supportive and give good opinions, but let you do your thing? Or will she be pushy or unsupportive?

     
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    Rhapsody    October 8, 2011   Maryland

    Don't take anyone that you even remotely don't want to take! I had a secret first visit by myself and still have never told my mother! It was important for me to have a moment alone to just try things on in peace. And my mom's great - but I still needed my moment. I'm so glad I had this. So - its your day and you need to do what's best for you.

     
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    Rhapsody    October 8, 2011   Maryland

    Oh - also - I told the lady my budget was $600, and she brought me in at $550 WITH a flower for my hair. So it can totally be done! I hated my arms too, but I found a rockin dress that I feel sooo amazing in. Good luck!

     

     
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    MrsGamerGod    June 2, 2012   Vancouver, BC

    I got an amazing dress at David's Bridal and it was $500.  Its seriously the dress of my dreams.  If you aren't going to a super high end designer store, you will find a fab dress in your budget!  As for who you are going to bring, I agree with Jamcnair.  Don't bring someone if you aren't 100% comfortable with them being there!  That being said, I brought my FMIL (she has 3 boys, no daugters) and she was so touched that I invited her to come, she paid for part of my dress!  Not saying you should invite your FMIL so she'll pay or anything, but if you have a good relationship and it would be meaningful to her, consider it!

    Also go easy on yourself, we all have features we don't love, but try not to focus on the things you don't like!  I promise that when you are in a wedding dress no one will notice your arms!

    Good luck on your dress hunt!

     

     

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