(Closed) First Time Pregnant Bees! Is it what you expected?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Is pregnancy easier or harder than you thought?
    WAY Easier : (11 votes)
    13 %
    Pretty Easy : (17 votes)
    20 %
    About what I thought : (10 votes)
    12 %
    A Little Bit Harder : (18 votes)
    22 %
    WAY Harder : (21 votes)
    25 %
    I have had complications/multiples so nothing what I expeceted : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Other: I'll let you know in the comments : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wasn’t expecting to feel this crappy for this long.  My first trimester, I threw up so often and felt so sick.  As soon as I hit the 2nd trimester (I’m just 15 weeks) horrible headaches and dizziness were added to the list.  I’m waiting for that glow that everybody talks about.

    Post # 4
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    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Well, it’s a little harder IMO because there are symptoms I didn’t expect. For example, everyone knows about MS and cravings, but no one really comments about the sciatica pain and carpal tunnel that results from fluid retention/heat. I think compared to a lot of women, it could be worse. For example, I had MS but it wasn’t literally a 24/7 thing. 

    Post # 5
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    1286 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m very early still, but because I seem to get all my impressions of pregnancy from TV, I assumed I would be vomiting by now (I’m just approaching 5 weeks), I didn’t think I would be cramping, and I’m not sure why, but I assumed I would wake up and having a little belly (thank goodness that didn’t happen!). I also wasn’t expecting to want to be by DH so much, prior to pregnancy, I used to ask DH to make plans without me to have some ‘me time’, now I internally freak out if I know he is planning on leaving me alone too long.

    Post # 6
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    1286 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @lilbluebird:  I started with problems with my sciatica, so I’m not looking forward to it getting worse! How bad does it get?

    Post # 8
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    One of the reasons (there are many it’s not just this lame one, lol) that I don’t have any desire to have children is because I feel certain that pregnancy would be torturous for me.

    All the women in my family are sick for almost the entire pregnancy–and not just a bit nauseated in the morning for the first trimester. Also, I’ve always had back pain issue and foot issues. I imagine pregnancy to be like having a bad flu for 9 months while barely being able to walk from back/foot pain.

    So, I suppose anything better than that would be better than my expectations. I honestly hope I don’t have to find out.

    Post # 9
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    1286 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @MrsRose:  Thanks! It is odd, the other day he was talking about going golfing on a Saturday, which I’m usually thrilled about because that means I get the day and the house to myself, but my stomach dropped and all I was able to think was “your going to leave me alone??!!”. I’m happy to it isn’t some weird thing I’m doing and that it passes.

    Post # 10
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    4416 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @MrsRose:  I’m also having the world’s EASIEST pregnancy. Just crossed the halfway point and I can still honestly claim that I haven’t had one single unpleasant symptom. And yeah, I’m sure that later it won’t be as great as it is now, but I could definitely do this again! And again, and again, and again … 😉

    Post # 12
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    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 1994

    Mine were much easier than I expected I really thought I’d be sick like my mom was but I was only sick one day with both pregnancies. Labor was also much easier than I imagined it would be my moms shortest labor was 24 hours so I expected long drawn out affairs but the first one was 14 hours and the second one was 4 hours. When the nurse checked on me the morning after my first she asked “How was it” when I told her it wasn’t as bad as I expected she stopped  dead in her tracks and said “I have never heard anyone say that in 20 years of nursing” 

    Post # 13
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    1012 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Mine has been more difficult than I expected, with still having random bouts of MS at 23 weeks, plus all the other symptoms: sciatica pain, trouble sleeping, dizziness. I was expecting an easy pregnancy because my mom’s was so uneventful and basically symptom-free. Oh well, it will all be worth it in about 17 weeks 🙂

    Post # 14
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    46 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    I did a quick scan of the responses and it doesn’t seem like there are too many who are as far along as I am at 32 weeks… but my response is that it’s WAY harder than I thought it would be. I breezed through the first and second trimesters, but now I’m feeling all these pains that I haven’t had before (warning: round ligament pain), my immunity feels weaker (it seems like I’m always catching a cold, fighting one now), and I’m walking differently because of the pains.

    Never had morning sickness, nausea, even cravings, wore my regular clothing up until 26 or 27 weeks (just started wearing maternity pants/jeans recently but can still fit in pre-pregnancy ones as long as I keep it under the slight belly), gained maybe 4-6 lbs TOTAL so far. But still, harder than I thought. Nobody tells you all the bad stuff!

    Post # 15
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    1081 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I am assuming things will get a little tougher once I get closer to the end, but so far at 22.5 weeks I am pleasantly surprised. 

    -I DID have all-day nausea pretty bad from weeks 6-13ish, but since then I have felt great! My mom and older sister were sick with their pregnancies until 20+ weeks. I’ve had quite a longer vacation from the nausea than I was expecting, win! 
    -I have not had any problems sleeping at night. I must have a giant bladder, because I can count on one hand the number of times throughout my entire pregnancy so far that I have had to wake up in the middle of the night to pee. I feel like I totally lucked out there!
    -I haven’t been *overly* emotional, in fact I think my emotions were probably more out of whack when I would get PMS compared to being pregnant. I have been pretty happy-go-lucky for the most part and I don’t even cry *too* much during sad things. This has really surprised me.
    -My boobs. OMG my boobs. Do they ever have to go away? Being pregnant is giving me serious consideration for a boob job later in life, LOL! 
    -I haven’t had too many aches and pains yet, although my pubic bone and groin were hurting after I jogged around a little the other day at the park with the dog.  Round ligament pain was kinda ehh..but it was usually so brief that it didn’t bother me too much. I haven’t had it too much lately. 
    -I haven’t really craved anything and I’m not really averted to anything either.  I can pretty much eat whatever now! (1st tri-different story). I am pretty hungry all the time, but I really enjoy eating again now that I’m not so sick all the time!  

    Typical things I’ve had that aren’t so pleasant: 
    -The acne on my face and body is still pretty bad. Stress seems to make it worse, still (did this before I was pregnant too, but it is just worse now).
    -Heartburn is pretty bad all the time but I had it bad before I got pregnant so I think I am just used to it.   
    -The constipation I had first trimester SUCKED but that was probably because I was taking zofran more than anything. Being constipated was the lesser evil compared to throwing up.
    -Where in the world is this insatiable sex drive that comes with pregnancy? Sadly, I don’t think I got lucky in that department.

     

    So overall, I’d say better than I expected. This second trimester stuff is completely awesome, if I felt as good as I do now for my entire pregnancy I might just have 10 kids LOL.  So, first trimester was sucky enough to prevent me from having a bajillion kiddos, but second trimester is good enough that I will definitely do this again (although each pregnancy can be completely different I’ve heard for so many women! I’m hoping all mine are similar to this or even better!).  I’m interested to see if I would say this same thing after the 3rd trimester, I’m hoping it doesn’t bring *too* many unpleasant symptoms! :-  

    Post # 16
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    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @KH:  I’m not sure. I got it sporadically as I’m only at 18w. It would clear up after 3-4 days and it alternated sides. My OB says it picks up in the 3rd trimester. 🙁

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