First wedding meltdown!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@orchidaloha:  my FI has been married before too… I’ve had more than one moment of ‘well you already had a wedding and did xyz the first time’. We just can’t help but compare Hun it’s was ppl do! I try to stay focused on the here and now. That said, my FI knows damn well that that stuff bothers me and would NEVER bring it up like that. You need to sit down with him and let him know how you are feeling.

Post # 5
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s stressful to plan a wedding, I think most of us have some sort of mini breakdown along the way! For me it was finding out how much the (bad deal) flight tickets to Sweden would cost us.

That said, it doesn’t get easier if you on top of that have to listen to comparisons between your wedding and your FI’s first. You’re entitled to your feelings and I think it’s perfectly normal that you had a reaction against it. First of all, I don’t think anyone really want their ring compared in that way and second, absolutely not in front of guests! I hope you explained to him why you got so upset.

Hugs!

Post # 7
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@orchidaloha: Oh, that’s unfortunate – I think it’s a good idea to have a second talk to him so that you make sure that he understand that it’s not the material aspect that makes you upset. 

As for the tickets, yes they’re usually quite bad – but the first quote was ~$500 more than I had budgeted for. Per person. :/ Fortunately we got hold of a better deal a few days later, but I definitely had an ugly crying meltdown.

Post # 9
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677 posts
Busy bee

@eocenia: Flying out of Toronto is always so expensive! When SO and I went to Florida a year and a half ago, it was cheaper to take a mega bus to buffalo, stay overnight in a hotel, and flight from there than to fly from Toronto. I’m glad you found a decent price.

Post # 10
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@orchidaloha:  

@pocketfox:  

The ONLY time I’ve been able to fly out from Toronto and felt like I wasn’t ripped off was when FI and I went to Bermuda. Return tickets for $180 per person! But you have to be able to catch the AC specials. Just a tip in case neither of you have been able to select a honeymoon destination yet. 🙂

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