First wedding meltdown

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I totally did. When I was trying to find a caterer. The food is one of the things my FI really cares about and he wasn’t helping look AT all. I had a melt down and they next day we emailed a caterer. Haha

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Dr_dazzle:  HAHAHHA SAME! My DH wasn’t helping much with anything at all and we hadn’t booked a few things, I had a serious melt down when I was trying to go through the list of things to do still and next day he called and booked everything 😀 

Post # 5
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yes, I am thinking to myself this morning, “Why don’t I just elope?”

I feel like everything is falling on me (I’m the bride, I get it), but don’t offer help or tell me its all good and then abandon me.  My parents are supposed to help with getting a caterer and invitations and they haven’t really done anything (in my opinion, but old people take longer I think).  Now they are going to Vegas for a week and sorried about a new baby.  I get that it won’t be about me, but YOU are putting the pressure on ME to get it done, YOU offer to help, and then YOU don’t share up to date information or just let things slide.  That causes unnecessary stress.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@cheesecakelove OMG – yes!  My FI tells me that he doesn’t feel included (I think thats garbage because everything that gets decided goes through him before finalized-he may just not be involved in the inital talks). So I ask him what he likes and what he wants and its, “I don’t care..I don’t know about these things.”  AUGH!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@cheesecakelove:  it’s funny how they are all. “Eh whatever” until you have a meltdown. Sometimes it’s the only way to get things done!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Ugh this weekend was rough for me, too! First, FMIL insulted the very generous amount of money my parents are giving us (saying it just wasn’t enough). Then, FI proceeded to shoot down literally every single venue I showed him. But has he gone and found a venue he does like? No, of course not.

He did bring up the subject of eloping to Hawaii…which I have to say, I’m liking the sound of more and more.

I just can’t wait to book a venue and MOVE ON!

Post # 9
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1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This is the first time I’ve been upset since I started planning in 2012. Our transportation company is SUCKING at communicating and I haven’t even signed a contract yet. They’re a great price but I had some questions before I signed and then they said they sent the wrong contract, etc. and have not gotten back to me. This is after I had to follow up three times to get the original ‘wrong’ contract. I think they lost my business.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@March1stBride:  I had a sob session over FI not asking me how the wedding planning is going. I don’t actually want his help because I’m a decision maker, I want things how I want them and I don’t really want to be waiting on him to waffle over colors or flowers or whatever. What did you say? No! I am not a control freak! Tongue Out lol.

Anyway I had a complete sobbing “I don’t even want to get married anymore” meltdown over it. He thinks this is a woman’s domain and I am really 100% ok with that. He thought well, she’s got everything under control, I’ll leave her to it. And I ended up a weepy pile of emotions. Then he thought he should help and I just had to veto all his ideas. Sealed I mean, he wanted a bright red tie, I have mint green shoes and a mint green flower in my hair. On no planet does red go with mint green. Ugh. So here I am, back to planning it all myself, just the way I want it. lol.

I am usually so direct and obvious and now I have confused this man beyond belief. I’m lucky he loves me!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@March1stBride:  Seriously true. I was MOH in a friend’s wedding years ago and the limo never showed up to pick us up from the church (everyone else had left in their cars and the reception was a 45 minute drive from the church) and take us to the reception. After an hour they called and the limo had run out of gas 30 minutes away from the church! My friend and her husband were 1 hour 45 minutes late to their own reception.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@March1stBride:  Yep. And it was July. We were standing outside melting in floor length gowns for almost 2 hours. And my friend, poor thing in her obnoxiously heavy, beaded ballgown. Ugh.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@March1stBride:  You are doing rather well if your first melt down is now!

My first meltdown was before I even got the ring, lol.  We were planning our wedding from the moment we bought the ring, as we wanted to get married in May and we bought the ring in June.  I called three photographers, and 2 DJs and they were all booked for our wedding day.  This was after having to fight to get a venue and being told the one that I was in love with in concept may not be completed by our wedding (I felt really sorry for the 3 other brides that booked their wedding for the month before mine.)

I held it together at work, at the gym, and then I got home and just cried to my fiance about how we would never be able to find anyone.

The next day I had a DJ and photographer booked. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@March1stBride:  I had a meltdown about my bachelorette party! I was helping my sister find dates that were good for everyone (since I have everyones phone numbers and she didnt) and my one bridesmaid was being SO difficult. She kept claiming she had something to do every weekend in May (“Oh ill have to study”. Really? Every weekend? You can’t plan to get your assignments done beforehand?) and then in June (“I’ll be job searching so I can’t go anywhere”). 

I texted my other friend and said, “I think I’m having my first bridezilla moment” because I wanted to be like, F-it, Don’t come then! There’s NO possible way your weekends are booked (this was back in December) in all of May and all of June. No Effing Way! Then after I picked a date that she agreed to, she said, “I hope I’m going to be able to come – I don’t drink so I might be boring”. UM – she better get her ass there since we choose this particular weekend just for her! 

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