Post # 1
I am a first year teacher (4th grade) and came in mid year due to a teacher leaving for medical reasons. I had previously been looking for a teaching job for FIVE years and so I jumped at this opportunity. I have been there for almost two months and I am absolutely miserable. I work 12-13 hours a day, every day. I also work on weekends, every weekend. I spend many nights crying because I am simply so overwhelmed with work. On top of it I am getting married in 7 months. My wedding is the day after the last day of school. I honestly think I am going to go insane. This is putting so much stress on me and also on my relationship with my fiance. I thought this was supposed to be the happiest time of my life…I’m planning a wedding, I got what I thought would be my dream job…but I am truly so depressed. I feel I have no life outside of work.
Are there any teacher bees out there that have gone through this? Everyone keeps saying the first year is the worst and it gets better but I am really struggling to believe that. I am going to finish out the year because I feel it wouldnt be fair to the kids to quit, especially when they already had a teacher leave midyear. However, I am really questioning if I want to keep teaching. I don’t see how I can be a good wife (and mother some day) with this job. It has utterly consumed me.
Post # 3
I am in my third yr teaching – and I know how that first year goes! It really does get better once you have your lesson plans, classroom management down, etc.
As for your wedding – can you hire a wedding planner that can help you out? Or even coordinator that you can work with the last month? It may cost a little extra but it would probably really help you out.
Also – will the teacher be coming back or is this a permanent situation? Do you not like teaching because of the adminstration, school district? Or just because of the workload in general?? Figure these things out before you quit the profession all together – you may be better suited for a different school district if its due to the work environment.
Post # 4
Teacher bee here too. I got married my first year of teaching as well. I was teaching theatre (want to talk about a time suck? Full time teacher plus after school rehearsals with 4-7 plays/year), and got married during UIL OAP season (competition theatre which is a big deal in TX).
I really should have waited to get married until the summer when I had time to enjoy the wedding process. As it was I was just so stressed, and didn’t really get to do any wedding things. My MIL planned the whole thing and I pretty much just showed up the day of. I highly recommend you postpone your wedding until a bit further into the summer if that is an option. Honestly.
Also teaching isn’t for everyone…it’s much higher stress than anyone could ever possibly know. I do think you are right to wait out the year, but start looking at other career options. If you are feeling this level of burnout already, it might not be the best fit. It is true that each year gets better and easier, but you have to determine whether the problems you’re having are the things that can improve.
What exactly is it about teaching that is so stressful for you? You might consider moving to a different school or a different subject/grade level. I loved my school, but my subject was just life-consuming so I now teach a different subject and it’s made a world of difference (unfortunately I had to change schools which makes me sad. I get lower pay with a longer commute, but I’m no longer crying during the week).
Hang in there! I know it’s really hard, but you are not alone…many teachers go through this. It’s not any wonder that teacher turnover is so high. Just try to evaluate the situation and make a plan.
Post # 5
Sorry you’re having such a rough time! I taught preschool, but I hear for school-age ed, the first year is miserable beyond your worst nightmares!
Good luck! I hope it gets better!
Post # 6
I’ve got no advice to make it better. But I feel your pain. I’m teaching my first year at a university (with an overload, no less) and my chair just signed me up to teach summer classes (which is when I planned to knock out all my DIY).