- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
:-/ So, I let my fi’s aunt know that we’re having a (very short) 5yo and up ceremony. She’s travelling in from halfway across the country, so I assumed she’d be bringing her (1yo at time of wedding) daughter for the festivities. I meant to mention this on the invitations, but they haven’t even gone out yet since it’s still about 8 months out (she wants to get a hotel early since it will be on a holiday weekend)
I got her the info and asked if she was bringing baby along (or if baby was staying with her paternal grandparents for the weekend). Let her know that ceremony was 5 and up, but told her that we would have a room in the lodge for children younger than that who could not sit quietly for the duration of the ceremony. Children are welcome at the reception.
Bee’s, she nearly lost it. She was very upset and obviously took it personally (asked if there were any other guests with babies and if I thought anyone would let their infant cry through someone’s ceremony). She said that if baby couldn’t come, sadly neither could she or her husband.
I understand a mother not wanting to be away (even in another room) from her baby for very long- particularly if this is her first child (which it is in this case). But I think someone can also understand the desire of a couple to want an interruption free ceremony. Is it really impossible to reach a mutually agreeable solution to this?
NO I don’t think you’re a horirbly rude person who would let your child cry through someone’s vows, but maybe I don’t want to be startled by your baby crying at all, even if you jump up to run inside and hush it. Maybe I want you to actually be guaranteed to see your nephew (who you adore and who loves you) get married without you having to rush away in the middle of it. Babies HAVE to cry to communicate, there is nothing wrong with that. But I also feel that it is my right through my WEDDING (and long movies, c’mon y’all…) to not have to deal with it.
Anyone else in a similar situaiton? I know I’m not alone. How did you guys handle it/ work it out?