- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So FI is a gardener and sometimes I think he’s a little self-centered about it where he can’t understand that not everyone is as into plants as he is and that sometimes talking about his gardening or giving people plants might be inappropriate.
FI’s best friend who is 24 passed away last night in his sleep and FI is in shock. He escaped into his garden, which I totally understand and I am grateful that he has a place to find solace, BUT he told me that he’s going to give his bestfriends parents (who are divorced) a tobacco plant each. He says that his friend’s dad was always interested in the tobacco plants and that since his friend was also interested it would appropriate to give it to his mom as a “in rememembrance of your son” type of thing.
I am not bothered that its a tobacco plant, it could just as easily be a tomato plant, I am just not sure that’s the proper way to approach his parents. His mom is asking that donations be sent to a local shelter in memory of her son.
I am not familiar with American culture in this regard at all, can someone tell me if giving the parents plants are ok, and if its not, what would be a better course of action?