(Closed) Fi's convince wedding band will take away from E-ring

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wanting a wedding band doesn’t mean that your ering isn’t enough for you. I think if you explain to your Fiance that you love your ering, but you really want a wedding band because a wedding band and an ering mean different things, he would understand and not be offended.

Besides, it sounds like all he wants is for you to be happy! And if you haven’t actually seen them together, there’s no way to say it will look clunky or gaudy. I’m sure you can find or design a band that will compliment your ering, not detract from it! Maybe once he sees it all together, he will change his mind 🙂

Post # 4
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Alexandria_Lyn:  I’m in the same boat.  We agreed for me to wear my wedding band on my right hand since he is absolutely against me taking my engagement ring off my left hand.

Post # 5
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Alexandria_Lyn:  I think it’s more common to wear a wedding band + e-ring together after marriage than it is not to, so I’d point that out.

Can you go to a jewlery store together and get an idea of what looks good and what looks bad?

If the e-ring is simple, then it shouldn’t be too hard to find one. It’s when the e-ring is already blingy that a wedding band can be a bit too much.

Worst case, you could always get a thin plain metal one, right? There’s no way it could look gaudy then.

Post # 6
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I want to see pics of your e-ring with the band you’re thinking of. He may have a point, btu in all likelihood it wil be fine.

Post # 7
3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

First of all, your ring is GORGEOUS! I found your old post =) lol I loveee sapphires!

Secondly, can you get a plain band? How high is your setting? (I couldn’t tell with the pics) Maybe a thin plain band will satisfy you both?

Post # 8
2462 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i wear my e-ring on one hand and my wedding band on the other because mine don’t work together–is that an option?

Post # 12
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Maybe you should ask him what he wants you to do for the actual ceremony, because it is a bit weird to use the e-ring for the exchange of rings IMO. I think a wedding band is a very good idea, and some reasons for getting one are: 

If you have a baby you might be worried about scratching him with the diamond

Some jobs do not allow you to wear them for hygiene reasons

You might travel somewhere you don’t want to flash the bling

Some physical activites just don’t work with a big ring, like rowing or rock climbing


There are loads of reasons why, and you can tell him that you will always wear the e-ring. If you want a band, get one 🙂

Post # 13
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Gorgeous ring! However, I agree with your Fiance that a blingy band wouldnt look right with your ring. You could order a cz eternity band in the same mm width you’re thinking of getting and try it on with your ring just to make sure.

I do think a thin, plain band would look good with it. Or you could get the eternity band and wear the ering on your right hand.

Post # 14
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Princess Di wore and Duchess Kate wears a thin plain gold band with the sapphire engagement ring they share.  I kind of agree with your Fiance that a blingy band will detract from your engagement ring.  Maybe convince him to get you a blingy right hand ring instead.  Tongue Out

Post # 15
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Here are pics

Princess Di’s is first and Kate’s second. I agree that a blingy band would take away from the ring

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