Post # 1
So, my fiance’s cousin is getting married at the end of this summer (August-ish), and I just received a shower invitation in the mail for his new bride….for june. Let me note that we live a four hour flight away from his family, and I’ve probably had two conversations with her…ever. While I’m sure she’s a nice girl (although she hasnt exactly shown it in the times that we’ve met) I wont be making the trip her shower. Now I’m trying to decide if his other cousin (the one hosting the shower) sent me an invitation as a nod to the fact that his family wants to include me to feel included in things (even if I cant come) or if she just wants me to send her a damn present.
I’m a little miffed if it’s the second one, but will probably end up sending her something anyway. Is that the right thing to do? What if your interpretation of her sending me one?
Post # 4
I think sometimes as a bride or the Bridesmaid or Best Man who is planning the shower, you’re given a list of names and you just send invites. There’s a few people I’m inviting even though I know they can’t make it because I was told by my family that it was to show we were thinking of them. I don’t know if I’d put them down for shower invites though…
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
I think she was probably being nice. I included my cousin’s girlfriend on the shower invite list I gave to our bridal party, because I know that they will be getting engaged and buying a house right around the wedding… and I wanted to let her know that I consider her “family”. She’s definetley the girly type who really enjoys showers, though.
Post # 6
Sometimes the person throwing the shower just invites all the women in the family without thinking of their location… it’s more to be nice. I don’t think it’s a gift grab. I’d send a little something, though.
Post # 7
I know my Maid/Matron of Honor just invited everyone who was invited to the wedding…I get the feeling that’s what most BMs do. Personally I wouldn’t think there was too much more to it than that.
Post # 8
I don’t think you should read too much into the invitation. Girls or family that I was close to got onto my shower guest list for inclusion purposes and because I didn’t want to leave anyone off. I didn’t expect a gift from any of them and I didn’t get one from any of them. This included my aunts and cousins and my husband’s aunts and cousins.
Post # 9
I agree with the PP’s. Most traditional showers include a good chunk of the female guests who are invited to the wedding. I doubt they expect you to attend but they wanted to still include you. Unless the bride is oober gift grabby, the invite probably had nothing to do with getting a gift.
Post # 10
I think it’s not a “for sure” that you wouldn’t be able to attend, an hour plane ride is what like 3-4 hours drive? For some people that’s not that long (raises hand) so she might have wanted to give you the option.
I think they were being nice