(Closed) FI’s Dad wants to go to his bachelor party

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is weird.

Is it possible that his dad wants to do just a father/son trip before he gets married?  Could your FH suggest that as an alternative?

My Mom mentioned coming to my BP.  I brushed it off and I’m hoping she’ll forget!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I actually think it’s totally normal. And I’ll probably want my mom and FMIL there for some of my bachelorette party, too. I think your FI should do what HE wants to do, and if his dad wants to come then he should allow it. Poker night,  beers, and sports sounds like a great, non-threatening idea. I say screw what the Best Man and dad want to do, it’s not their wedding. But if his dad really wants to be there, I think it should be ok.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

aw, thats so cute actually his dad wants to go, yeah if I were FI I would feel mortified

 

good luck on this one

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t have a problem with it. My cousin had his dad, his FFIL and my dad all attend his bachelor party, they just did a pub crawl and dinner and had a blast.
I’ve also been to a bachelorette where the bride’s mom and FMIL were there too and it was super fun.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I think that Mr. MJ would love to do something with his dad – but he’s also a really low-key guy. So it’s not like he’d be taking his dad out to strip clubs or anything either.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think its fairly normal to include parents in at least part of the activities. They could have a drink and a game of poker at home with dad there and then out on the town with the boys only.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

yeah, another vote for it being quite normal.

However I know my FI’s dad will not want to go out with them but MY dad probably will, and my Fi would love it (he loves my dad! cause he is very lovable – LIKE ME!! haha)

My mom is probably going to go to my bachellorette party, I haveno issues with it either

So he comes, whos to say he will stay all night?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

You guys think this is NORMAL??? No it isn’t! Especially if he doesn’t want him there!!

He should tell his dad that it’s just for him and his friends, and schedule some alternate bonding time with his dad.

 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My father went to my brother’s bachelor party when he got married a few years back – and they went to Vegas. I can only imagine what that was like – actually I’d rather not imagine, that’s my brother and father, gross.

I thought it was strange at the time, not because it was my brother’s bachelor party but because my dad’s more of the ‘stay at home and watch home renovation shows/golf on TV’ type. I never asked my brother if he thought it was weird, although he’d definitely be the type to say so.

They came up with a good compromise. I’m thinking of doing that for my bachelorette party – a daytime/early evening event for everyone, then a night out on the town with my friends.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Most of the bach parties I’ve known, have included the fathers and older relatives, strippers or not.   Icould see his dad feeling a bit hurt.  If Fi wanted to just be with his friends, can he accommodate his dad by doing something with just him, or having a second bach party including all his male family members?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I thought it was weird at first reading (on various blogs) about everyones parents being involved in the bachelor/bachelorette parties, until my own mother and aunt wanted to know when/where mine was. I think its just a matter of parents wanting to be involved and having a good time with their kids. They were young once too and I think its just another way for them to live through us. I’m not planning my bachelorette though so I have no idea when or if I’m even having one since my MOH lives in Colorado.

Compromising sounds like a good idea. The FI should at least invite his dad to dinner and drinks so that he doesnt feel left out of the fun.

Post # 15
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Newbee

Wow, I had no idea that parental types were so common at bachelorette parties. (I’ve been to 3 weddings in my entire life as a result of having moved to the other side of the country and a wage slave while my extended fam was getting hitched. So my ideas about weddings mostly come from movies.) 

 

That’s awesome, though, because thinking about it, I’d love to have my mother at my bachelorette party. And my aunts. They’re hilarious. My mother’s the life of the party, even at 52. We’d be way more likely to come home with some funny stories if we brought her – I tend to be prim and proper. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think it is totally normal that the groom’s dad wants to go to the Bachelor party; hell, a lot of bachelor parties even include the bride’s groom! It doesn’t sound like he is demanding they do this or that but maybe just giving a suggestion in case it wasn’t thought about?

Either way, I don’t think it is big deal.

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