Post # 1
I feel awful for Fiance right now since he’s doing everything to save his 14-year old dog, who has been with Fiance since he was just 17years old. The dog is in the hospital and hopefully should be released tomorrow. But since he is old, it’s uncertain how much longer he has to live.
Fiance is trying really hard to not show how much pain he is in, and when the topic comes up he really tries to stop himself from crying, but admits that he is sad over his dying dog. I have had cats before, and have experienced the death of a cat, so I know what it feels like. I also know exactly what NOT to say (like advising him to get another pet, etc). But I’m not sure how exactly to comfort him in this situation–since he doesn’t really want to focus on it because it’s so painful for him.
As a female, I used to want to talk about it since it helped me, but I know that men are different. I don’t want to remind Fiance of it by brining it up and making him sad, but I also don’t want to act like nothing is happening. Any advice?
Post # 3
Aw, I’m sorry. 🙁 We had to put my husband’s 18 year old dog down a few months ago and it was awful, she was the first and only pet he’d ever owned so he’d never been through a pet death before. I just took my cues from him, if he didn’t want to talk about it, I didn’t. I just made sure to be there. I was in the room with him when they put her down and it was so hard, but he told me later that he appreciated me being there. I drove him home afterward since he was obviously a wreck and was there for him over the next few days while he really grieved.
Post # 4
Just be there for him, and let him know that you are a safe place to break down. He doesn’t have to be “strong” or hold it in around you. There’s not really anything you can do or say that will make it better, but you can definitely just be there to listen, even when he doesn’t say anything.
You can also have the vet clinic do a paw impression in dough… you bring it home and bake it. Maybe collect a few things, like his leash, a favorite toy, something like that and put together a shadow box or little memorial. (maybe not right away, but it would be a really nice memento for him to have)