Post # 4
MRS_Anderson0426: maybe the sister doesn’t even know her parents added her on.
Either way, I would call them or tell you BM to tell them unfortunately you had to make some tough calls and because you just aren’t as close with huge sister she’s not invited. If they know she dated your FI they will probably realize what a weird position they put you in.
Post # 1
This is mostly just a vent because at the moment I’m not planning on doing anything about it but advice would be appreciated as well. So one of my BM’s is mine and my FI’s long time friend from school. Her younger sister is also my FI’s ex girlfriend. We invited the BM and her husband, and her parents who we are close with. We did not invite her younger sister because we agreed that it would be weird to invite exes and neither one of us has spent any time with the sister in years. We also cut several people from the guestlist in order to make sure that we had enough room for everyone who attended. We are starting to get our RSVP’s back in the mail and on the parents’ RSVP card, they filled in their names and the younger sisters name as attending! She does not live with them so I cannot figure out why they thought it was ok to include her on the RSVP when the invitation was clearly addressed to only them. And I can’t figure out why she would have the nerve to invite herself. Ugh!
Post # 2
You need to put your foot down and simply say “we only reserved two seats for you and your husband. Due to limitations on our guest list, we aren’t in a position to accomodate any extra guests.” end of story.
Post # 3
MRS_Anderson0426: Why can’t you contact her parents and say that you’re sorry but you’re maxed out on space at the venue, so you can’t accommodate their other daughter?
Post # 5
Well the truth is, even if you’re actively planning a wedding, it’s only a 50/50 shot that you’ll understand the secret language of names on envelopes as it relates to who is invited to what. Nobody knows that stuff outside of weddingbee and it’s so random that no one would think to look it up. Give the family a call and explain that you’re sorry you can’t celebrate with everyone but you can only extend the invite to the parents. Don’t go into space constraints or budgets because that only invites negotiation.
Post # 6
I would just politely reply and say that due to venue constraints and the current guest list, you are unable to extend her a seat to the wedding.. done. I dont know why she would want to come anyways. that weird… Talk it over with your FI (and your BM if you feel comfortable doing that)