- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Ugh. FI and I have been together for 5 years but he dated a girl for a couple of months before we met. A few months into our relationship, she broke up with her new boyfriend and asked her friend to call my FI and ask him to call her. This was an obvious attempt to get back together with him even though she knew we were dating, so I’ve always been pretty annoyed by her.
Now FI just called me (good for him, what a good guy that he immediately told me) because he knows I’m sensitive when it comes to her. I’m not mad at him. He did the right thing, but I’m just irritated with her! She sent him a facebook message talking about how she wants to be close with him again, blah blah blah. They weren’t even that serious when they dated! Common! She even mentioned in the message that she knows he’s engaged so WHY would she think this is a good idea??? Seriously! Ex-girlfriends can be CRAZY! I just have to laugh because her life must be so empty and sad!
Thanks for giving me a place to vent, bees! You’re all amazing, and def not crazy!
I’m posting her message below incase you wanna see how pathetic this girl is!
Perhaps the first sign that this is a strange message to be writing is the fact that it’s been so long even Facebook doesn’t consider us friends anymore. I’ve actually considered messaging you several times, because that’s the sort of thing I think about — I suppose you of all people don’t need to be told that emotions run deep with me. Losses resonate for perhaps far longer than they should. So I’ve wondered about you sometimes. Missed you in the odd, abstract way one misses someone one doesn’t know anymore.
What finally pushed me to actually sit down and contact you was pure accident. I was looking for something on my desk, sifting through papers, and a notebook flopped open. I recognized your handwriting immediately — strange, how things stick in the brain long after they’re useful. It was the notebook I’d had everyone write in at my graduation/18th birthday party, and it had opened to your note. “You’re truly one of the people I can’t imagine my life without.”
How things change.
If you’ve even read this far, you’re no doubt wondering what purpose this message is supposed to serve. To be honest, I’m rather wondering that myself. I may regret ever even entertaining the idea of it as soon as I hit “send” (or rather “reply,” because in another bit of oddness Facebook has offered up all previous messages from you). But I’m endlessly fascinated by people, and how people interact, and love and lose and think and change. How four years ago we couldn’t imagine life without each other.
I hope this doesn’t sound like some sort of nostalgic plea from a long-ago and longing love. My intention is not at all to intrude upon your life, or pretend that we’re fated for some epic, The Notebook-style reunion, or anything even in the realm of any of that absurdity. But we did mean an awful lot to each other, once. I guess I just find it — well, sad, for lack of a better word, that now we’re strangers. And I guess I think that, if you were at all so inclined, maybe it would be nice to try to be a little bit more than that.
I hope you’re well, I really do. Congratulations on your engagement — that’s fantastic.