- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
So when we first got engaged, my FI told me his mom offered to pay for the flowers and the photography (in addition to hosting the traditional rehearsal dinner). I was very hesitant to accept this as I know (and I know she DOESN’T know) that these are two big percentages of the overall budget. So I tried to get my FI to get a ball park figure of how much they will be willing to contribute, to which he replied "whatever it costs." That would be all well and good if they were made of money, but they aren’t. So now I’m in a weird position – I know that his parents don’t know what anything costs, but I don’t want to skimp on things I think are important. So I told him instead of photography, they can pay for music (he wants a band, I want a DJ, so I figured let them pay for the band since I don’t want one anyway). But the flowers are an issue. I just don’t know what to do. My mom says let’s just go about our business and get estimates and then evaluate from there, but I don’t want to NOT include FMIL but at the same time I also don’t want to make her feel bad if these things end up costing more than she had bargained for.
Any alternatives or suggestions? I’d kind of like them to pay for the honeymoon, but I don’t know if that will happen because I think she wants to contribute to the wedding. How should I approach this? FI is not being helpful in getting any sort of estimate frm them, and I’ve TRIED and TRIED to get him to give me a number. I know it sucks and can be awkward to talk about money, but I feel like if they are offering to contribute, I need to know (and my parents need to know) approximately HOW MUCH that will be. Am I wrong in wanting a number out of them?
Help me hive!