Post # 1
My FI’s mom and stepdad want to stay at our house with me to save on hotel costs. We have blocked out a group of rooms at a nearby hotel for a discounted price of $99. Apparently they were under the impression that they could stay with me the night before (he is staying in a hotel room with his groomsmen), as I told my FI this months ago, but apparently he forgot or didn’t listen, so they werent aware. I planned it this way so I could have some alone time to relax and sleep in my own bed during a stressful time.
Am I just being a b****? The day is only a month away and I feel bad, but I feel like I need to stick to my guns. I’m not sure why they would even think it would be ok to put this on me to host them the night before. And…we are letting them stay there the night of the wedding since we won’t be there.
What would you do?
Post # 2
emilythehutt: ” I’m sorry, there must have been a misunderstanding. We had planned for you to stay at my place the night of the wedding. We have other plans for the night before. Would you like me to make you a reservation at the hotel, or would you prefer to make it yourself?”
Post # 3
emilythehutt: You are not being a b****, at all. It is perfectly reasonable to want a quiet night ahead of your big day and a considerate family member would realize that.
What julies1949: wrote is perfect.
Post # 4
You’re definitely not being a b. You don’t want to have to entertain guests the night before the wedding. Politely tell them that there must have been some confusion and suggest they book a room.
Post # 5
I stayed alone the night before my wedding, and highly recommend it. I slept beautifully and appreciated my quiet time in the morning. I think you just need to be honest, and tell them that you really need to have some personal time to relax and that you don’t think you’ll be able to do so with company. If necessary, I supposed you could offer to pay for their hotel room, but I suspect you won’t need to do that.
Post # 6
emilythehutt: Not at all! You do NOT want to be worried about hosting them and getting ready. You need your time and privacy on this day. Politely redirect them to a hotel. That’s nuts!
Post # 8
No way; I also can’t believe anyone would be so obtuse as to think the bride wants to entertain houseguests the night before a wedding.
Stick to your guns.
Post # 10
No, no, no, no. Have your FI explain that there was a misunderstanding and they need to stay at the hotel the night before.
Post # 11
I agree. Your FI should just go ahead and make a reservation for them and explain there’s been a misunderstanding.
Post # 12
I think you’re finace should explain the situation intead of you having to do it especially since he will be staying at a hotel as well it makes no sense for the parents to stay with you the night before the wedding. Is there any way you guys could pay the $99 accomodation for the parents? Maybe they can’t afford it?? and that might make things run easier and smoother.
Post # 13
No way in hell would I have spent the night before my wedding with my inlaws.
Post # 14
HuysuzAyi33: this. 1) the answer is absolutely not. 2) your FI should explain the situation, I’m sure they’d prob feel weird since he won’t be there anyway. If they actually can’t afford it, your FI should pay the room since he forgot to tell them.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
julies1949: +1000 You are a politeness guru!
emilythehutt: Follow the above advice. She said it perfectly.