Post # 1
My FI’s good friend has this horrible GF who nobody likes because she is just a nasty person and talks bad about people within FI’s circle of friends (mostly the SOs of his friends). I have heard her say mean things about other people and just found out that she was talking s**t about me, too.
I absolutely HATE that I have to invite this girl to my wedding knowing that she has said mean things about me but I can’t not invite her because she is living with FI’s friend and they will probably be engaged soon. I don’t really see any way around it (unless they magically break up soon – fingers crossed) but it’s just so frustrating to have to waste a valuable space and money on someone who I know has said bad things about me. I already have to make cuts to the guest list and the fact that I have no choice but to invite her over other people is making me see red.
Basically just venting here since I know I have to invite her but I was wondering if anyone else had a “mean girl” they had to invite to their wedding and how you dealt with it.
Post # 3
@flapperphilosopher: Ugh. One of DH’s best friends has been dating this MISERABLE human for like 9 or 10 years!
So we HAD to invite her.
Even after she tried to strip MY DH on NYE. And tried to grab his dick through his apants. Twice.
Anyway, she was there (and DH’s friend couldn’t make it, so WTF). She sat with friends and I think I saw her twice all day! She didn’t try anything stupid.
Post # 4
@BrandNewBride: WOW. You are a better person than I am. If any woman touched my FI like that she would not be anywhere near my wedding!
Post # 5
@flapperphilosopher: Agh. DH’s best friend and his wife. I found out later (from multiple people) that she and her husband spent most of the reception bad mouthing me, the wedding, and the reception.
I have no advice. I’m still pissed about it because instead of being supportive friends of DH, they could not handle a day when everything wasn’t about them. So yeah. You have my sympathies and I wish I had something helpful to say.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@BrandNewBride: EWWW. I don’t think I’d be able to invite that girl to my wedding.
Post # 7
@flapperphilosopher: We had to invite a GF of the Best Man, that NOBODY cared for. And in her usual fashion, she made even more people not like her on the day of our wedding.
During the whole ceremony, reception etc, I honestly didn’t notice her, until the amount of people that were there started to dwindle, later into the evening. So I had a great time regardless.
I felt bad when we got back from the honeymoon because I heard about some of her antics, but found out our friend dumped her that night because she was so ridiculous.
Post # 8
@LittleCricket: That sucks, but honestly why would people even tell you what they were saying? I am sure somebody at our wedding complained about something (there is always some one that will find something to be unhappy about) , but I wouldn’t want to hear about it and I would never tell a friend something negative about their wedding. Who does that?!
Post # 9
@ieatunicorns: They had been asking what her deal was during the rehearsal dinner. At that point I didn’t she was that bad. Basically it was close friends and family that was pretty pissed off at what they had heard. I’m glad they at least waited until after the honeymoon to tell me. I had seen them acting pretty shitty during the wedding by tried to brush it off, so… yeah. Close friends and family angry on our behalf told me. And it wasn’t in a “have you heard” way, it was in a “why is your husband friends with that jackass and his wife?” way.
But yeah, I do wish I didn’t know. It has made being around them very difficult.
Post # 10
Well you might have to invite her to the wedding but I would be damned if I would keep my tongue still. But I have this tendency to tell people exactly what I think.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I do my best to follow proper etiquette. Really, I do. But depending on what kind of shiz she was talking, I would absolutely (okay, I’d have to make sure FI was okay with it first…) tell his friend that she was not to be in attendance. And I would be sure he knew exactly why. If he didn’t want to show because of that… See you later!
You are a stronger person than I am!
Post # 12
@flapperphilosopher: Sooo glad I don’t have that problem. I’d rather not invite a few of SO’s relatives, but I’ll suck it up and play nice.
If you have to invite her, just kill her with kindness. Lots of smiling and what not. If she starts talking mess (it gets back to you), then I’d call her out after the wedding.
There’s absolutely no excuse. She’s a guest at your wedding and should feel grateful, so if she starts that crap handle yo biz 😉
Post # 13
@LMD: Her pattern of behavior is to cut other people down to make herself feel superior so she says things about people’s appearance (clothes, weight, etc.). I was told she said something about the way I dress and that I “try too hard” – Like, I’m SO sorry I like to look my best when I go out and I wear nice clothes! FI knows about all of this but he has been friends with this guy since high school and, while he doesn’t like the GF either, he wouldn’t be OK with us not inviting her because it would be awkward for his good friend. I understand and agree with this but it just pisses me off that I need to suffer her s**t with a smile just for the sake of FI’s buddy. LOL if she thinks I try too hard when I go out, I can’t wait until she sees the wedding…
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
@flapperphilosopher: Yeeeeah! Give her a reason to talk smack! ;D
Post # 15
yep, my brother in laws girlfriend who i hate. AND she was a bridesmaid (long story) i have posted so many times on here about her and her evil ways. Havent spoken to her since the wedding. Nobody likes her. no idea what BIL sees in her but oh well.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t invite her. My wedding = MY DAY, I don’t have to be around any toxic people who could ruin it! 🙂 and I would tell her off exactly like she deserves.