Post # 1
First a confession – I told my fiance that I would get honest opinions on this one, but I’m counting on you guys to prove me right – lol!! Our venue is a state park lodge, and they provide use of an open trolley to shuttle guests to and from local hotels. There is an additional charge for this, and FI recently mentioned that he thought we should ask for donations for said trolley from guests who are drinking. To my horror, his original suggestion was to have A BASKET ON EACH TABLE, but I nixed that immediately and talked him down to possibly a basket at the bar (I know, I know). We are having 4 hours of open bar, so I feel it’s kind of necessary to provide this service complimentary, nevermind the incredibly tacky situation involved in having suggested donation baskets. You have to understand that while I am from the west coast, we currently live in a small midwestern town (where FI is from) and it was difficult to even persuade him that a full cash bar was a no-no. So, I’m not surprised at this recent development and I need some back up on this one!
Post # 3
no. that’s ridiculous. tell your fiance ktbrady said so! lol
Post # 4
Psh. Men just don’t get weddings! I’m with you on this one.
Post # 5
lol i agree with you – but you have to admit, its a damn good idea. LOL
Post # 6
this is why the wedding planning is left to the women! That is not a good idea, and may even offend some guests..im with you on this one.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA
Haha, guys think the strangest things about wedding planning! I definitely think you guys need to pay for it, not your guests. But if it makes a difference in the price, you could always request they RSVP for a seat on the trolley if they would like a ride. Then you would know how many people would take advantage of it if it’s a per person cost.
Post # 8
I’m with you on this one. I would say that if price is an issue, try to cut something else out like favors. No one will remember whether or not they got a favor if they get a complimentary drunk bus ride. As much as I want to agree with your FI about getting guests to pay for the bus (we too are going to have a drunk shuttle – wouldn’t it be nice to not have to pay for it! ), I have to say that you all really should include this at no charge to guests if you are going to provide it at all. Perhaps you will get enough cash in wedding gifts to offset the cost of the bus.
Post # 9
I hate this idea. If you are going to do a bus, you guys need to pay for it – otherwise no bus.
Where I live, all weddings are open bar and no one ever provides transportation so I personally think it’s okay not to have it too. Can people call a car for themselves if they get very drunk?
Post # 10
okay I stopped reading where you said “ask for donations.” You NEVER ask your guests for donations. They shouldn’t have to pay to attend your party. Tell you fiance this is tacky beyond belief!
Post # 11
The only acceptable thing I can think of is to do a dollar dance (if your guests will know what that is and if it is tradition in your area). And have the DJ say that some of the donation money will go towards the drunk bus (or not).
But I think your best option is to cut something else out so you can put that money towards the shuttle.