(Closed) FI's mama drama.

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 4
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1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Ah, that’s rough. I mean, the people hosting the shower invite guests so you could say it wasn’t up to u but that’s just putting the blame on someone else. Maybe this will teach her to be on her best behavior lol 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cbco:  My parents are messily divorced too. What we (my sister, my brother and I) have done at weddings is seat them well apart and trusted them to behave. At my brother’s wedding, they were in the same row but with my sister and her husband in between them, (I was on the end because I had to get up and do a reading). Then at separate tables at the reception. We don’t do bridal showers here so I have no easy advice there, sorry.

I don’t think it could hurt for FI to tell her that at the wedding she’ll seated well away from her ex’s family, so could she please keep her distance from them, and behave, for her son’s sake.

Post # 7
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8318 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Are you having more than one shower? Has anyone from your side of the family offered? If so invite her to that one instead. It is not unusual for couples to have showers with different sides of the family.

As for the wedding just seat them apart.

At the end of the day if she causes any drama it will reflect badly on her and no one else.

Post # 8
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719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

If you’re not doing “sides” at th wedding, than she doesn’t have to sit beside everyone else, and definitely sit them away from eachother at the reception. As for the shower, I would have him give her a heads up that there is to be absolutely no drama, and that if there is, she’d be asked to leave.

At my wedding, I’m having buffers between me and my brother, and I’m giving myself permission to walk away if I feel I’m being bullied by him. And telling a few key people that if they find him offensive, it is okay to do the same, that I would not think they were being rude for cutting him off.

Good luck.

 

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