Post # 1
So when I thought about the seating of parents I assumed we would do FI’s dad and his wife, then FI’s mom and her husband, then my mom is being excorted by my niece (whom is an adult)….
BUT, FI’s mom is having issues with this and wants to walk down the aisle with FI’s dad….they’ve been divorced and remarried before FI and I started dating (we’ve been together 10 years)….
When I said it sounded wrong and disrespectful to their current spouses I was told I don’t understand because my parents aren’t divorced. I told my FI if he can explain it to me then I’ll understand….all he said is that they did it at his sister’s wedding….
So I don’t understand, decided to step back since they aren’t my family, but now I am worried.
Our rehearsal is on the 4th…..I don’t know if anyone has told my FI’s dad that he is walking with his mom….what if this doesn’t go over well with fi’s dad’s wife????
Any thoughts on this? SHe also wanted to make sure she was at the same table as FI’s dad during the reception….i just find it so odd…
Post # 3
@darkflame: Um…. sounds like you and your fi’s parents (and step parents) need to plan a lunch date and get this sorted. That’s incredibly awkward…
Post # 4
@darkflame: Was their divorce amicable? It sounds like they did this for his sister’s wedding, so they should be fine for your wedding. I would make sure that your FI’s dad knows about the situation and if he is fine with it, then that’s that. If you FI is ok with it, then it’s a go.
Yes, it is odd, but it’s not the end of the world.
Post # 5
@darkflame: I find this kind of odd since they are both remarried, but how wonderful that they get along well enough to walk down the aisle together! They may have suggested it out of respect for your FI. It might be kind of nice to have a photo of them walking down the aisle together, in honor of their son’s marriage. I think it would be a beautiful moment 🙂 Their spouses could always be escorted by another usher and still be seated next to them.
Post # 6
It doesn’t sound too awkward– have FFIL and FMIL walk together, then sit with their respective new partners in the front-row pew!
Post # 7
@darkflame: it is a very unusual situation! However, if your fiancé, his parents, and their new spouses are okay with this arrangement, I think you should go ahead with it. Sometimes, all the explaining in the world would still leave you trying to make sense of it all.
My advice is speak to all parties involve and come up with a consensus. I;d let your fiancé take the lead on this since he knows his parents best. Good luck!!
Post # 8
@bmo88: sort of…
His dad knows it’s his fault….his wife was “one of” the other women in their marriage….the way that his mom talks about this woman is disgusting–yes I get that he cheated on you with her BUT, slagging her to me doesn’t help anything except make you look supremely bitter…
Part of me is worried that she is doign this to shove it in the new wife’s face….
Post # 9
If they’ve done it before at the sister’s wedding, I’d imagine they are okay with doing it again. But that is definitely something I would tell your FI to check with all parties.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - Glen Sanders Mansion
It does seem odd, but I agree with @mrs-to-be-2014. If everyone is comfortable with the arrangement, I would be ok with it.
Post # 11
I don’t see any issue with them wanting to walk in together. It really is only an issue between them and their spouses, and it sounds like they have already done it once so it sounds like there may be an agreement already in place.
Post # 12
@darkflame: Was he married to his current wife at the time of the sisters wedding?
If he was, like PPs have said, they’ve obviously come to some sort of agreement.
If not, I’d agree with you that your FMIL is demanding this to shove it the wife’s face…
Post # 13
I’m not from a divorced home, but I can see how it would be a really nice gesture of peace, goodwill, and love towards their son to have them walk down the aisle together, provided their spouses are okay with the arrangement.
My best friend got married, and her divorced parents did the same (both remarried), and it was really sweet. So I say it’s not too weird!!
Post # 14
Better than all the divorced parents that refuse to come to the wedding if their ex (or the ex’s new spouse) is invited!
I don’t see the problem – if everyone is comfortable with it, I think it’s a nice gesture to show that these are the two people that brought your husband into the world 🙂
Post # 15
@darkflame: I know it sounds odd and awkward but her idea may turn out to be a huge gift to you. this way you do not have to prioritize which parent walks down the aisle first and everyone feels important. as long as his dad is on board I say go for it!
Post # 16
@darkflame: My parents are divorced and I certainly can’t imagine them doing that! This is the sort of thing which should only happen if both parents are happy with it. So FI should ask his father if he’s comfortable with it. If FI’s father is comfortable with it, do it. If FI’s father isn’t comfortable with it, don’t. (i.e. Just because he was put in an uncomfortable position at his daughter’s wedding, doesn’t mean he should need to do it again).