Post # 1
..and it’s annoyed me.
Fiance and I were friends for 3 years before we got together as a couple. FI is bisexual, and had a ‘friends with benefits’ arrangement with a male friend for about 18 months…it ended when this friend got a boyfriend, about 6 months before we became a couple.
Unfortunately, for about the first year we were together this ‘friend’ was sending my Fiance extremely inappropriate (sexual) text messages, and trying to arrange ‘dates’. Myself and Fiance know a lot of gay couples, and I’m not exaggrating when I say none of them are faithful to each other…I find it depressing, tbh, and made it clear to Fiance that if we became a couple it would not be an open relationship.
Fiance finally sent this ‘friend’ a message making it crystal clear that he was no longer available and was happy with me.
About a month ago I realised that this ‘friend’ (who has now become single) has a picture of him and Fiance as his Facebook profile picture. Anyone looking at it would assume they are a couple, believe me. I told Fiance at the time that I was annoyed, and suggested that he would be within his rights to ask this ‘friend’ to remove it.
A month later and it is still the same picture. I’m not making it a big deal with Fiance – I haven’t reached the age of 44 without realising you can’t make any man do anything they don’t want – but I have been wondering, would this annoy anyone else?
Post # 3
This would annoy me too. His ex sounds like an immature sh*t stirrer. I hope you can get your Fiance to have stern words with the ex.
Post # 4
It would annoy me, but I don’t think you can really do anything about it. Other than maybe make your profile pic you and your Fiance and as your Fiance to do the same.
Post # 5
Your Fiance can report the photo on Facebook (which gives the option of asking the person to remove it or having FB remove the photo).
Post # 6
@milesandbos: My Fiance is the type that you can’t tell him to do anything. He thinks it’s best just to ignore it. And this ‘friend’ is an immature little sh*t stirrer!
@asscherlover: Exactly what we have done! And I agree, there really isn’t anything I can do about it.
Thanks for your replies!
Post # 7
Yes, this would annoy me. But I wouldn’t be able to deal with a bisexual SO, either. I’d worry he’d always miss that part of his life and resent me for it. Also, every bisexual man I’ve ever known has eventually come out as homosexual. So a bit of a foreign situation to me.
Are they in touch still?
Post # 8
Totally inappropriate. He really shouldn’t just let it be. It would actually piss me off more if Fiance refused to report it or do anything about it.
Post # 10
@RedAngelDreamer: This was exactly what I was thinking. I always figured that if a man wanted *that*, he would always have a need that I couldn’t fulfill. I understand that this isn’t your current dilemma, however I just want to advise you to tread carefully with this “bisexuality” from your Fiance. I applaud him for being upfront of course, but it is a situation that doesn’t usually end favorably for the heterosexual team.
As far as the FB pic goes, it really isn’t your problem. It’s the poster’s problem for going after a taken man, and it makes him look pathetic, In My Humble Opinion.
Post # 11
Bravo. That’s a remarkable amount of ignorance you are all displaying there.
I suggest you read this, particularly number 7:
You might actually learn something.
Post # 12
I can understand that you are irritated about it but it will probably be easiest to just let it go without any drama… oh and @Sekhmet I agree with you!
Post # 13
@Baal: Bravo. That’s a remarkable amount of ignorance you are all displaying there.
Ignore them. I can’t believe I still read this ignorant crap from people on this forum. I don’t believe the OP asked for your wisdom on bisexual men. Oh and by the way, I’ve slept with a female! Go ahead and make any sweeping generalisations at me too. I need a laugh.
To the OP – Facebook is just a drama filled sess pool. I’d suggest deleting it, both of you. Otherwise the drama, even from a picture will drive you mental. We both deleted ours, after issues with his ex.
Post # 14
As someone who is bisexual and with a man who is also bisexual….
The picture would bother me too. Because he isn’t with that person anymore, and I would be upset if SO did not ask the picture to be removed. I’d really drop it after I asked though. It’s annoying, but not a big deal.
As to the rest of the posters, being bisexual has no bareing on cheating or resenting your opposite sex partner. That would be like saying all heterosexual men will cheat/resent because they like all women. I and SO have just as much respect for our relationship as any other couple. Neither of us have such raging hormones that we have to keep our partner on a leash to keep them away from those damn gay hormones or to force the other one to not jump the next hot piece of ass they see.
Being bisexual, gay or straight is not a choice. A monogomus relationship is about respecting your partner. None of those sexualities preordaine any person towards cheating.
Respect knows no sexuality.
Post # 15
I would be completely p***** off !!!! There would be war!!!!!!!
Post # 16
It would annoy me, yeah. But I would do my best to ignore it because there’s nothing you can do to make the guy change his picture.
Is your Fiance still friends with this person? He sounds immature and toxic and I think it’s probably time for you both to phase him out of your lives, or you’ve got an indeterminate number of years of him pulling attention seeking stunts whenever he’s single and lonely to look forward to.