- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I think I know the answer to this but wanted to see if anyone else had dealt with this and maybe had a better idea than I do. My mom is divorced and re-married, but my father isn’t in the picture so that’s pretty easy for me.
My FI, however, has parents that are divorced. His dad remarried right when we started dating, so I know his step-mom but she is not involved in any of our lives, wedding planning, anything. I know that I am getting his mother a gift as she’s been so incredibly helpful and even though she can’t contribute a lot of money, has done so in other ways.
His dad is contributing quite a bit of money as our ‘wedding gift’ (which is fine–most of it is going to our photo/video budget and being able to go with someone I really wanted is the best gift!!) but it’s from his personal account. To be honest, I don’t believe FI’s step-mom even knows–that’s kind of how their relationship is though. I was thinking of getting my step-dad and FI’s dad the same gift, but I then wouldn’t know what to get his step-mom because I don’t think she should get the same things I am getting FI’s mom and my mom. I am getting them something personal and heartfelt for all their coontributions.
So I should definitely get her something, right? To be polite? Should I just make the gift to his dad/step-mom a joint gift instead of separate ones?